his roommate told me....she said that he was so upset from losing me cuz my mom didnt want us to be together and neither did my best friend Brad...Brad sent him very mean messages and told him to leave me alone....but he got so upset him committed suicide!!!! i did love him so much and nows hes gone and we will never be together.....i dont know what to do any more..now Brad wont have ne thing to do with me cuz i was mean to him when he told me what he said on the messages...and right before that he told me he loves me more than a friend and i do too but i didnt know he felt that way towards me....im losing everyone i have ever loved....
2007-02-26 06:49:40 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ive been to counseling...i just got out of first step i was locked in the hospital for 4 days....i have so much goin on in my life and its all so hard...i dont know how to cope with all this ne more...its just too much....
2007-02-26 07:01:09 · update #1
Well I know that you probably feel that there are many things that are left unsaid but you can talk to your ex. He is in spirit and im sure that he is watching over you because he loved you very much so you really can tell him everything that you feel you didnt get to say. He loves you so he would want you to be happy and he wouldnt want you to be here on earth dealing with this all on your own. So if you have a close friend that you can talk to and be with during this time then do so but dont be afraid to talk to your ex and God and talk to him about whatever you feel you need to. Now about your friend talk to him about it and say that you appreciate what he was trying to do but he didnt need to handle it in the manner that he did it in and just make it clear to him how he could have handled things much better than what he did. Im sure he will understand if you have been friends for a long time. Good luck and remember that you can handle this you are strong and you can make it through this. God Bless.
2007-02-26 07:02:43 · answer #1 · answered by cheergirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
woah girl! That is really intence.
Hmm well your ex is gone and I know you have a million things you wish you could say to him but the best thing you can do is respect him by making yourself happy agian. I think you should take a break from all this drama and relax with your gal pals. After a while (and I mean around 2 weeks or more) talk to Brad. He is your best friend that shouldnt be hard. Tell him that you also love him and that you apoligize for being rude to him. Tell him you would like to take a break but you will talk to him again when you are ready to date again. Good luck!
2007-02-26 06:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by Chat Noir 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
damn im sorry for your lost no one should take there own life but you guys shouldnt have broken up becuase your mom or bestfriend didnt like him they should have understood that you were happy and in love and thats all that matters. your bf had no right to leave messages to your ex and should have been supportive to the both of you. tell him that your sorry for what you said but that you were in love with your ex and that he should have been supportive instead of trying to mess up something so good.
2007-02-26 06:57:47 · answer #3 · answered by jazzylynne1991 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to think of going to counseling. You are feeling a lot of different things that I think a counselor would be more experienced in helping you with. That is tragic. I am sorry.
2007-02-26 06:57:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my wife's 1st husband shot himself a few years ago. they had 2 wonderful kids. she was devastated (obviously), but she got through it with lots of family/friend support, professional help and some medications too. I hope you get it together OK. remember that your life still goes on
2007-02-26 07:05:32 · answer #5 · answered by kjhang10 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be made an emotional hostage by utilising his self-unfavourable or suicidal threats. he's manipulating you. If he fairly needs to injury or kill himself, he will do it, in spite of you. He would not rather love you, yet needs to regulate you on his words. provide up attempting to touch him. in actuality, do all you are able to to ward off him from contacting you, with a protecting order if mandatory. observe that he could turn his aggression in direction of you. So do no longer positioned your self in a topic of being any the place with him on my own, collectively with in a motor vehicle or living. in actuality, ward off him in any respect expenses. he's emotionally risky, manipulative and doubtlessly risky! i'm no longer being overly dramatic. In my community, there have been a number of comparable situations in the final couple of years lead to homicide-suicides. One in contact 2 cops. i could advise getting on the spot counselling - for your self, no longer for or with him - with the aid of a family contributors abuse/violence application on your community. stable success.
2016-10-02 00:56:02 · answer #6 · answered by favaron 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in this same kind of position but im still in love with my ex and he still loves me but we both have someone else and i know that if i break up with the guy im with now he will kill himself because he is quite suicidal and noone knows it but me well people seem to be able to see it and they just dont believe that he could be like that because to everyone else he has a "perfect" life.... when in reality its not so i know how you feel because i love them both i just dont know who i want to be with
2007-02-26 06:57:51 · answer #7 · answered by ~*~Baby D~*~ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my darlin KENDRAL YOU SOUND VERY CONFUSED RIGHT NOW. bABY-GIRL LISTEN I DIDN'T MEAN TO SOUND HARSH THE FIRST TIME. FOCUS ON HIS FAMILY THE ONE WHO DIED. HELP OTHERS. IT HELPS TO TAKE YOUR MIND OFF YOUR OWN PROBS-BE THERE FOR OTHERS BABY. dON'T SIT AROUND AND LISTEN TO YOUR AND HIS SONGS.GET OUT AND HELP SOMEBODY IN PAIN TOO, AND YOU'LL BE AMAZED HOW IT MIGHT HELP YOU. PEACE DARLIN PEACE.BEST OF LUCK TO YA. HOPE EVERYTHING TURNS OUT WELL IN THE END. BRAD WILL BE THERE TO HELP YOU THROUGH AND OTHERS WILL TOO.
2007-02-26 07:07:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
these matters are out of your hands babes
you can't control how people feel and it's NOT you fault
talk to people around you ,you can trust
don't bottle your emotions up
2007-02-26 07:00:17 · answer #9 · answered by johnc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a professional grief therapist to speak with it.
2007-02-26 06:56:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋