For around a long time,my boyfriend and i had been really happy together.However,during that time we ended up going on a break,and he started this girl.The break ended and we were back together because we missed eachother and he stopped seeing her.We were really happy again for a long time,but then he hurt me by taking something out on me one night,shouting and swearing and broke something.I ended up splitting up with him.He promised he was going to get help to sort himself out for him and for me.So that night after out talk,i sat and cried while he went to a party.The girl he was seeing on our break was there,they got steaming drunk together,then they slept in the same bed.He said nothing happened,but she was scared to be left on her own and didnt want him to go.He said he was really sorry,and that he was phoning the anger management place that day and that he loved me.He does bad things then begs for forgiveness.Do you think what he did was wrong?
2007-02-26 06:45:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He should have went home instead of a party.He should have left her with who ever she was with at the party.How did it help stay all night with her when he had problem of his own.
2007-02-26 07:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by Happy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, whether it was wrong really depends onhim and how he really feels about you. You should definately not see this guy anymore that's for sure.
The fact that you were okay with him seeing another girl during a break is a pretty good indication that you guys have deeper issues. Secondly, the fact that he keeps losing his temper and then keeps asking your forgiveness is another red flag that there are deeper issues here.
He should definately get help through anger management, but don't wait until he beats the c r a p out of you before you decide to leave him for good.
Typically, people like him tend to male exscuses for why they haven't gotten help. If he says he is going to get help, give him the benefit of the doubt, but if doesn't seem to be doing anything about this after a week, dump him quickly and get on with your life. Don't let him B.S. you by him saying he loves you or anything like that; as I said earlier people like him like to make exscuses.
2007-02-26 14:58:13 · answer #2 · answered by evil_paul 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In my opinion yes what he did was wrong, and betraying you trust and saying that he will get help knowing that what he is doing is a repeat, he should not be putting you through this and if he really wants to be with you then he needs to get some help and commit to it and be more faithful and do what he says that he is going to do. If he can't do either one of those things then he does not need to be with you and needs to get his stuff together before considering a relationship. You deserve better then that and you know it but it will be up to you to decide what you will do about it.
2007-02-26 14:52:00 · answer #3 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a bad cycle. You said you were happy, but you went on a break. Why would you do that? Sounds like your relationship is too combative and back and forth. They are supposed to be much healthier than that. Get out. He's a jerk.
2007-02-26 14:51:36 · answer #4 · answered by graybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he was wrong for that, because if he really loved u he wouldnt have done nuthin like that to hurt u. especially if u two just go into it. Basicly he was making up an excuse so u can come running back to him.
And then again if u let some one like that do that to u and u let them come back, believe me that they WILL keep doing it.
2007-02-26 14:53:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is a loose canon! He uses drinking, etc. as an excuse to do stupid things. You need to let this one go. Trust me, you do not need this heartbreak. There is a nice guy out there who will not yell at you, cheat on you, or scare you. You deserve better.
2007-02-26 14:49:47 · answer #6 · answered by Christabelle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he done fuked up girl but hey even though we say we love this person and you've been here and there ups and downs we all gots too move on next time he'll hit you you want that.move on even though it hurts.He dame shure slept with that girl some sort of sexuall thang happen.
2007-02-26 15:04:08 · answer #7 · answered by tino 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats too bipolar. this relationship can lead to abuse. you need to stay away from him. one he cheated on you, and two he has anger problems. Stick to logic, and your heart won't be so heavy.
2007-02-26 14:51:16 · answer #8 · answered by Charlie H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him quick
2007-02-26 14:53:40 · answer #9 · answered by faded love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what soap opera was this again . all my children or days of our lives.
2007-02-26 14:51:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋