I've been with this person for 8yrs and our relationship isn't improving. He cares for me but he doesn't love me. He says he loves me but he's not 'in love' with me. He doesn't spend any quality time with me and he blames me for everything. He's always outside doing a crossword puzzle. He doesn't help me with anything. Just when I think it is over, he suprises me and we are back loving each other again. Until the next time. So I really don't know if he wants to be with me or he's just playing games.
In other wqords where he is 'In control' the relationship
he says things to make me feel like I'm the person at fualt when I know that I'm not.
what should I do
2007-02-26 06:43:40 · 6 answers · asked by stylishclaudia 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't know the whole story, but it certainly doesn't sound like you're consistently happy in the relationship. If you find yourself depressed by the state of your relationship/not excited by your partner, you need to have a long talk with him. Express all your angers and fears -- give it your best shot. And if he's unwilling to compromise after that conversation, move on. There are lots of other guys out there in the world, and you don't want to spend another eight years experiencing the same dull thing.
2007-02-26 06:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by jazzy girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave, you deserve better and you are wasting your life on him. Love isn't a sometimes thing. Either he loves you and wants to be with you and truly is a partner, or he isn't. This guy doesn't sound like he is in it for love. He probably likes having you around, but only on his terms and when he wants someone to be with. The rest of the time he doesn't want you around, so he treats you like crap. Leave. It will be the best thing you ever do.
2007-02-26 06:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by Summer H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have to ask whether he wants to be with you, then he definitely does NOT want to be with you. Grow a backbone and give him the middle finger. Also, a translation for you: if he says he "loves you" but is not "in love with you" this means that he likes whatever you are doing/buying/cleaning for him, but that he would rather be getting nasty with someone else.
2007-02-26 06:49:24 · answer #3 · answered by dregg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lack of communication, if this person doesnt love you or want to be with you he just wont. If you feel like that spark that began your relationship is gone that it probobly is. maybe he just doesnt know how to express himself have you talked to him about it let him know how you feel and that its really hurting you inside.
GOOD LUCK to ya
2007-02-26 06:51:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ashy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the jerk...I mean really, do you want to live the next 8 years like the last?
I don't think I could take it
be cool...
2007-02-26 06:49:20 · answer #5 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, he doesn't want to be with you. he's just using you for whatver he can get (security,sex, money etc). you should leave him and find a relationship with equal distribution of control
2007-02-26 06:49:29 · answer #6 · answered by G&L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋