Person 1 I've known for a year, dated for 5 months then broke up back in the summer (because there was no affection rarely ever shown). He says it's because I was a virgin and did not want to corrupt me. He's very talented in music, has a good job, car, house, etc. We had a hard time communicating with each other b/c he is very quiet and he is laid back. I am very energetic and atheletic-he says even though we are opposite, we are compatible. For the first time ever he told me he loved me after we broke up. I thought it was over. So I meet person #2..(he is a really good friend of Person #1). we hit it off and we are totally compatible, easy to talk with, we have high goals, he works as an appraiser, nice car, nice family, tremendously likes me, we finish each other's sentences, we can do active things together, and have no problems communicating. Person #1 called me up and talked to me after he saw us hanging out and told me how much he wanted to be with me. I have feelings for both.
2007-02-26 06:40:12 · 15 answers · asked by July 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
So let me see if I have this straight... you are asking whether you should date the guy who you like, you are compatible with, who likes you tremendously or should you go with the guy with whom you have a track record of problems. Hmm. Tricky.
You already know the right answer... Bachelor #2. He is the one who deserves your full attention. But here's the catch: You need to pick one and disengage from the other. If you attempt to juggle both men you will end up messing the whole thing up.
2007-02-26 06:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You’re in a sticky situation. It doesn’t really sound as though you have much in common with person #1. You seem as though you are to opposite. What you need to think about is this whatever caused you to break up or gave you the idea that it was over is still there. It’s not been worked out and therefore until it is there’s going to be a problem in that relationship. Person #2 while he sounds like he’s compatible with you, he’s a very good friend of person #1. Because they know one another there could always be drama in the relationship with them being good friends. In order for you to be with either, one is going to be hurt, this you should already know. However it seems as though you may be more compatible with person #2. You need to sit and talk with person #2 and let him know that since he’s good friends with person #1 does he feel or think that can cause problems with your relationship. You should also let him know that you’re concerned about person #1 and his feelings. I don’t think if you pick person #2 that person #1 will be your friend and I don’t think it’s a good idea for you to try and maintain a friendship with him. Actually that would go for either person that you pick. I wish you the best and if you decide to pick either one just be careful. Best of luck with your situation.
2007-02-26 07:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by Pisces Princess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Person # 2 you should always go with the one you get along with better. Otherwise it will be a struggle. When you say we have high goals what do you mean by that? You are not a couple so that's weird. You should say I set my goals very high and so dose he, as if it were something you have in common. You seem very young to be deciding what appears to be your future, take things slow and don't feel rushed or you will make a mistake and end up divorced or unhappy. How old are you? 19 my guess.
2007-02-26 06:44:12 · answer #3 · answered by simsad31 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boundaries and goals etc. Be up front about these things. Do you want the same things? Any undo pressure from either of them? It sounds like you have more in common with one of them - #2 bloke.
You have feeling for them.... but are they necesarily the correct type of feelings to build a relationship on?
You might feel love for both, but it could be platonic love. You know? Friend love. I know, there is such a negative stigma around the friend zone, but don't listen to that. Friends is a great place to be.
And if you decide you prefer one of the men to build a relationship with after all, but he doesn't.... or something you find out about makes it impossable to proceed..... Do not go for the other guy just because he is there. That is unfair to him and it'll be rotton for you both because the truth will have to come out eventually!
2007-02-26 06:58:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So it is not easy because you have two guys that really like you and everything about you but you know that you can not have both, so to figure out which one to pick figure out what you have in common with the two of them, you could outweigh your odds, pick a guy though that is going to treat you like you should be treated and will take you for who you are and not what you have. If it is neither of these guys then hit the playing field again, and maybe with a little luck you might find mr. right.
2007-02-26 06:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first guy sounds like a player. The second, might be too.
My advice, watch the movie, oops, forgot the name, darn! It had Jessica Simpson in it and there was two guys that wanted her. It was funny. Watch it, think about it. Don't rush into it.
Good Luck, friend.
2007-02-26 06:47:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number 2, easy
2007-02-28 14:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by mildmanneredclarkkent64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a hard one. but you really want the first guy. its obvious you dated him and only broke up for a stupid reason try it again this time with the affection it may the greatest thing ever. if not try the second guy. opposites attract thats what makes life interesting. clones are not that fun
2007-02-26 07:19:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is really your choice to make... but I think that you really like person number two. Person number one is wanting what he can't have and dragging your emotions through the mud. I would let person number one stay in the past and go for person number 2.
2007-02-26 06:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by candychick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...I think you should stick with Person #2 because it sounds like you guys have fun and are perfect for each other, and if Person #1 didn't say he loved you until after you broke up....Its kind of a go with your gut feeling I guess.
2007-02-26 06:49:46 · answer #10 · answered by *sexycheerleader64* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋