My bf & I have been together for 2yrs & we live together... we argue a lot over little things but would make up and apoligize right after & we also do talk about it because we both realize how stupid it really is, yet we can't help but argue still. We would argue while cooking, argue about cleaning, even argue while playin games. Well everytime we argue, I would think of everything bad that has happen(put all our arguements together) & just go all negative. How do I stop that? Our arguments really isn't all that serious & we do notice it. but my negativity, I can't help.!
2007-02-26 06:31:59 · 5 answers · asked by Kay 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love him and you don't want to lose him I suggest that you really find a way to get yourself spirtitually connected with god. Your mind is a battlefield and all of those negative thoughts will only take you away from the thing that you truly love and the one who you truly want to be with. Ultimatley just know that neither of you are perfect and that petty little things should not waste your time. Love him and don't bring old things back up. Forget them and say to yourself I am not mad about those things anymore. Another thing that you can do is describe your feelings and say you are making me feel ...when you....and I will react this way...if you don't stop. Anywasy good luck. Maybe even so look for activities in which the two of you can be individuals.
2007-02-26 06:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's good that you realize that you are being overly negative and that the things you are arguing about really don't matter. Sometimes I think couples argue bc they are bored and have nothing interesting to talk about. Try spending some time apart(not breaking up, more like a hobby) and doing things that interest YOU. This will help bc you will be interested in something exciting and new, and it will give you both something to talk/learn about.
2007-02-26 14:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should stop arguing over silly things. i understand how u feel whn u really feel like to point out all ur bf mistakes. it happens to me too. cause what he did is so stupid n silly that need to be nagged. everytime i mad about his doing, every single bad things that happen before come together n makes me madder. but later, i realized that this is getting unhealthy to our relationship. so whenever im mad at him, i keep reminding myself to focus only to current problem n let it resolved promptly. at the same time i try to make him understand why i was mad instead of just accusing n pointing his mistakes. now, it has been a while since we last quarreled. it has been 2yrs if im nt mistaken
2007-02-26 14:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by nieteni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like arguing is the way you two communicate. You need to change that. Both of you need to sit down and agree to bite your tongue and think before speaking. I have been around couples that argue as you have described, they love each other, but need to work on talking and not arguing.
2007-02-26 14:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by dskillz27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you start to say something mean just stop. If he starts the fight then don't say anything back or say "You know this is stupid and were just going to make up after" Don't let yalls fight ruin anything yall have together.
2007-02-26 14:35:22 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋