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Question

WOULD YOU LET YOUR GF OR WIFE DANCE (STRIP)??THE REASON Y IM ASKING IS BECAUSE IM A DANCER AND IM MARIED BUT I THINK MY HUSBAND IS GETTNG TO THE POINT WHERE HE DOESN'T WANT ME TO DANCE ANYMORE

Answer 1

I was a dancer for a very long time. When I met the man who is now my husband I was on my way out the door also. I know you're not seducing men for a dollar, like some people think...LMAO!! Anyway, personally I didn't like doing it after I met him, even when I had no car because it broke down and I couldn't get to my bartending gig, so I had to temp. start dancing again.

I now work a regular job, and ya now what, the transition wasn't all that bad. I do miss the extra cash, but not enough to want to go back to the old career. I make a lot less then when I was dancing and I'm not in as good a shape. But I'm happily married.

My husband would let me dance, if I really needed to, but I don't want to. If you think your husband is getting a bit tired of it, then start making the transition. Your happy marriage is more important then the extra money every week.

Answer 2

Why are you including the word "let"? You don't need his (or anyone else's) permission to dance; it's your life, you can do what you want.

On the other hand, I'm interested in knowing how long you've been a dancer; did you start after you were married, or should he have known what he was getting himself into? If he should have known that you want to dance, then you should have known how he felt about it. I feel little sympathy if this subject was not resolved before being married. However, he's free to change his mind or be mistaken in how well he thought he could deal with it. If you recently started, he might be taken a bit by surprise and I don't blame him.

Also, would you be comfortable if your husband was a stripper? Seriously. You might be, but you might not.

You could start by sitting down with your husband and explaining to him why you want to dance and listen to why he doesn't want you to. He doesn't have the right to tell you what to do, but he does have the right to have his concerns heard. If you want to disregard his feelings, that's your right as well.

Would I LET my girlfriend strip? Kind of a difficult question. Yes I would "let" her because, as I said, it's her life and her body. But I wouldn't be comfortable with it and it wouldn't sadden me at all if she quit. That said, my girlfriend has been a stripper; this was after I met her and only for a few months, she quit years before we started going out.

I wish I could say that I'd be fine with it, but I know that's a lie. Thankfully, she doesn't want to go back to dancing, but I think that's more a response to how I told her I would feel about it than her experiences in that job.

Answer 3

...a man has to be pretty darned secure in himself,..and very trusting and self assured in you and your dancing intentions here too. I hear that some exotic dancers make fabulous money for entertaining their clients. Keep extra-curricular sex off of the entire menu,...and you two should do reasonably well financially together. Keep a level head on the dance floor hun,...and purity in your heart for your lover and husband accordingly. Give him any moment or reason to think otherwise honey,...and you'll be history. Trust and respect for both of you two in your relationship will be the keys hun. Make sure he gets more attention then your clients reasonably,...and you'll be ok. Keep it real with him babe!

Answer 4

No, but if I knew this before getting married then I would have to deal with it. My own opion is that your husband is tried of see his beloved wife going to the strip club and doing her thing around strange men. I would talk with him and see if both of you can come to a sensible decision.

Answer 5

Would you want him to Dance strip in front of a bunch of screaming women trying to get their hands in his pants?
It's difficult to be intimate and in love with someone if every other guy knows what you look like and can see what you had for breakfast.

Answer 6

There is no sane man in this world who would want his gf or wife to strip the rest who would are well guys who go to strip clubs

Answer 7

I wouldn't like it and I think I would ask her to stop. I don't think I would end the marriage if she insisted on doing it but it would make me jealous and I'm a pretty easy going guy for the most part.
I had a girlfirend who worked in a massage parlour for a while and I didn't feel okay about it.

Answer 8

It would take a very strong man in a very strong relationship to allow that. I trust my wife 100% but I wouldn't allow her to strip. I have nothing against it for other women but I wouldn;t like the idea of other men seeing her naked.

Answer 9

If he met you and you were a dancer, then he knew what he was getting into, so really its a little hypocritical, but if it really bothers him ad you love him, then get a different job. Dont lose someone you love over a job, and dont think that he doesnt love you because he wont accept what you do, he just sounds like its hurting him watching you do that because he loves you so much.

Answer 10

First of all, did he know you were a stripper when he married you? I mean, he didn't have a problem with it then. I personally wouldn't want my wife to strip, but she didn't do it before we got married. You should have a serious talk with him and find out why he has changed his mind about your profession.