I'm a freshman in college and i have a boyfriend here. When I first got to college, I didn't know anyone and was surrounded by mostly guys, and made guy friends. My boyfriend and I have problems when he thinks I am getting to 'close' to another guy. I would never cheat on him but he believes I am 'emotionally cheating' by becoming close friends with other guys. i care about him a lot and stopped hanging out with my other guy friends. I thought that that was a reasonable compromise. However, my best friend (male) and I have three of the same classes and always do our work together. My boyfriend recently said that he is very uncomfortable with me working with my friend, and that he wants me to stop being friends with him. My friend has an amazing girlfriend and neither one of us would ever do anything to hurt our bf/gf, its a platonic but pretty close relationship. My question is is it possible to have a platonic friendship while you're in a relationship and how do i convince him its ok?
2007-02-26 06:26:46 · 12 answers · asked by smileyangel22688 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
tricky. it is hard for younger people to have a strictly platonic relationship with someone of the opposite sex. I am wondering, female friendships are much more rewarding. Male friendships can only go so far. Why have a male best friend? When it comes to frienship females have way more to offer. If you still want to hang with this friend, he needs to be really nice and open with your bf. You should all hang out together, that might put his mind at ease.
2007-02-26 06:38:18 · answer #1 · answered by G&L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible but both have to understand it. Both have to agree or it won't work. You'll either have to quit being buddies with this guy or he'll have to give in. One of the two has to happen. Your still young, your boyfriend is right, you may fall in love with someone else after spending time and getting to know them.
You have time later to be in a serious relationship where you can compromise friendships with other men.
When you marry later in you life, if you do, you won't have the need to have these other friends, as I married my best friend.
Or you'll have a relationship that supports this.
Good Luck, friend.
Don't let this get in the way of your studies!
2007-02-26 06:37:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you can not change someone or the way they think. They have to realize it on their own and change on their own. Bottom line is, either he does not trust you or he himself has problems with being "just friends" with someone of the opposite sex and consequently believes no one can have a platonic relationship with the opposite sex. You could always try to go out, the 4 of you. Maybe then he will see the love your friend has for his GF and that there is nothing between you and him.
2007-02-26 06:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by havasufem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you took the next step in life and went to college, this is a period of change and growing up, it's time that you expand your life and open up to other people and develop new friendships, you should let go of your past to free yourself to this new world, your Freshman year in college is a time to find new groups of friend and new experiences, don't miss these awesome opportunities by being held back by your past (high school friends and bf's), it's a classic example of "moving on" in life.
years down the road you will tend to go back to certain old High School friends because they meant something or were just great people not to be with, it's an evolution of friendships, if your current anchor (bf) falls in that category then you will be back together in the future, enjoy each stage by living life, not being dragged down by it
2007-02-26 06:39:46 · answer #4 · answered by mohvictor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, i had that problem too. it is most definitely possible to have a platonic friendship. tell your guy that you and your friend have limits and possibly have the two men talk. i had to do that and now the guys are really good friends. i hope that this works out for you!!
2007-02-26 06:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by amymrgrt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to arrange a situation where both guys can meet and get to know each other - maybe w/your friend's girlfriend there too. Sounds like he just needs to grow up a little bit.
2007-02-26 06:31:01 · answer #6 · answered by confused (again) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply put he is threatened by other guys. Its understandable but what you need to prove is that there is no threat. What you can do is go out on a few double dates with your friend and his GF. Make your boyfriend comfortable with him and perhaps they will be friends
2007-02-26 06:30:58 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all you might need to dump him because that sounds like a guy that is controlling and second he might end being abusive futher on down the relationship! third that is possible and like i said before it sounds like he's controlling and there is no convincing a person who is controlling go to this website and it will proberly help you with your question. http://geocities.com/svanludwick/411_stalker_warning_sign.html
2007-02-26 06:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Beautifull 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible to have that sort of relationship with the opposite sex HOWEVER if your man is saying stop it then he is trying to control you and that is a warning sign darlin
2007-02-26 06:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by Varacha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no longer unavoidably, lol it incredibly is referred to as a date, i think of because of the fact they set a date mutually on which they're gonna circulate out. i think of diverse human beings do various issues on their dates.
2016-12-14 06:14:47 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋