When he comes over to spend the night with his older brothers (25 &23yrs old) they ask him why he thinks he needs it and he just throws a fit and cries. Is it anxiety or what?
2007-02-26 06:24:48 · 16 answers · asked by Jan 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You don't need to tolerate it in your own house. Tell your parents that you are not comfortable with it, and the new rule in your house is no pacifier. 5 year old with a pacifier is not a sign of an anxiety issue, it has to do with parents that aren't ready to give up the last baby, and are perpetuating the behaviour.
2007-02-26 06:42:48 · answer #1 · answered by The Hippy Momma 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Not really much you can do since you're not the parent. You have to respect the parents' choices no matter how screwed-up they may seem! However: Myfirst thought would be to tell the parents and the child (together) that he could not come stay at my house unless he ditched the pacifier first....... Just seems like the only logical thing to do at this point (if it bothers you that badly). If you can live with it, just get over it, and don't draw any attention to his paci- problem and hopefully he'll get over it himself soon. I have a 2yr. old that loves his paci, but I ONLY allow it for bedtime- no exceptions, so if he wants it that badly, he has to go to bed to get it! That helped him get over the daytime need, b/c as we all know, toddlers hate to go to bed!! And soon, it's going to dissappear from the bed and his life altogether! good luck
2007-02-26 15:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by Jenintn 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Anxiety has nothing to do with it.
Shaming him won't work either. He's grown too attached to it. It's not your job to get rid of it. Have a talk to your folks about your brother getting off of it. At 5, he's too old to be still using a pacifier. Last thing you probably need is to get into an argument with your folks about it.
They should be the ones to get him off of it.
2007-02-26 14:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by CyberCop 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
you will have to get the parentals on board for this to work, here are a couple things i've known to work:
try telling him that you met a baby that needs a pacifier and since he's a big boy if he would be willing to send it to the baby
tell him no baby stuff is allowed at your house, and that includes the pacifier, so if he wants to be a big boy and visit in the big boy house he cant bring his pacifier
just act like it's lost and tell him there is no more
2007-02-26 15:19:13 · answer #4 · answered by TN girl 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
it is just the fact that he has always had it so he thinks he needs it. it has become a part of him and he does not know what to do when he is without it. it is possible to break him of this but it is going to take some time. hope this helps. good luck.
2007-02-26 14:27:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try: cutting the tip off of the binky little by little eventually he wont like it and maybe not want it.
Tell him that his favorite cartoon character doesnt have a binky and was wondering if you could donate them to them (keep one and hide it) take them to the nearest goodwill and give the cashier a note saying to throw them away but tell him to ask the cashier if he could send it to the cartoon.
*Not only will this help but it will teach him charity.
If all else fails dip it in something hot or gross when he is rying for it give it to him and maybe he will realize he doesnt need it.
2007-02-26 15:05:05 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
He'll get rid of it when he goes to kindergarten next year and the kids start teasing him. How's his teeth? He's got to have buck teeth by now from sucking on that for so long.
2007-02-26 15:08:00 · answer #7 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's just a little spoiled. Make a small group of elders (like you and the other brothers) that refuse to talk or play with him because he's "uncool" and has a pacifier.
It works. Even though it seems harsh.
<3
stranger.
2007-02-26 14:29:51 · answer #8 · answered by Stranger 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
my parents hid my brothers when he looked for it they wouldn't tell him where it was so he named he was to smart for them so they gave it back. thats just my bro though hide his it might work .but you might have to give him time when he gets to school the kids will tease him and he will drop that thing like a hot tamaolie
2007-02-26 15:27:45 · answer #9 · answered by horselover 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't do anything, it is their child. He probably throws a fit because he is tired of people harrassing him and belittling him. For him to WANT to give it up he needs to feel safe, secure, and NOT PRESSURED. Don't say anything about it. Don't call him a baby, don't say only babies use it, don't say "you want to be made fun of?" Let him get through this stage and let his parents, YOUR parents, be the parent to the child.
2007-02-26 14:33:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋