My boyfriend and I are moving in together for the first time...nether him or I have ever lived with and one besides our parents and that was over 5 years ago...anyone have any tips on have to live with someone and not completely get on each other last nevers, but still keep the love alive?
2007-02-26 06:15:45 · 9 answers · asked by Bee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Moving in together may appear to be a great idea with couples due to money issues and mostly just plain convenience, but in the end moving in together before marriage ruins relationships for the long run.
Studies have shown that couples who wait to live together before marriage have a lower divorce rate. Many factors play into this lower rate. 1. People who wait until marriage to live together have a more traditional stance on marriage and are more likely to stick with it. And two, which is more important in your case, is that when living together while dating there is always an out and full commitment to each other is not established as it is in marriage. Therefore, when marriage is brought into the picture, the thought process of living together does not change… there is still an out.
However, some people feel they must live together to really learn if they can actually spend the rest of their lives together. I believe you will still live with your boy friend regardless of the risks. To ensure that you are not on each other’s nerves, live your life as you did before you lived together, give each other space, do your own thing, allow him to be himself and allow for compromises. Best of luck.
2007-02-26 06:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by Pilar 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I was in the same boat a few months ago. You never really know someone until you move in with them. You see them everyday, you have to watch the same shows, find something to talk about, etc. There really isn't any advice I can give you, just understand there will be an adjustment period. A time where you are learning his ways and he learning yours. Try to be understanding and try to establish rules/routines. Like when dishes will be washed, when closthes will be washed, who will do the vaccuming, how bills will be paid, etc. If you go into it with a clear understanding about things, that stops alot of the arguments later.
Lastly, if you and he have been totally genuine and honest with each other the entire time, there should be no ugly surprises that pop up.
Good Luck!
2007-02-26 14:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by dskillz27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should both talk about it together. Find out things that annoys him, and let him know what annoys you. It will help you better find out what's going on.
There will be some times when you will want some alone time...it's normal.
If you two have a committed relationship, things will flow fine. If you have very good communication, it will be even better.
If I were you...I would pray!!
Wishing you the best...
2007-02-26 14:22:52 · answer #3 · answered by Chanel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi
It is very important to give each other space and make sure that you and your bf have a good understanding and most importantly trustworthiness that will work wonders in your relationship ,
Take care and best of luck .
C
2007-02-26 14:22:15 · answer #4 · answered by Constance M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh i say that living together is a bad idea. Most people say it would be due to that you can get to know the person better and yes it's true but once you're with him your relationship with him won't go anywhere else. sorry to break it to you.
2007-02-26 14:21:50 · answer #5 · answered by ninacoqueta0817 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...it's not going to be easy...honestly. It also depends on how long you've been together/dating...how old you two are....how are you two doing financially? These are all questions to consider and to answer together. The only way you two may be able to get along depends on patience, love, responsibility, and communication skills. Good luck.
2007-02-26 14:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by A Real Love 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure You give Him his space and Make sure you have the house at least a litle cleaned up it always help's.. Also make sure you have fun becouse if one person is un-happy you both will be..good luck..
2007-02-26 14:21:08 · answer #7 · answered by twistedinlime 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET TOGHETHER AND DO THE SAME THING U USTO ...GO OUT HANG OUT WITH HIM AND URS AND HIS FRIENDS THE USAL STUFF!!!!! AND JUST GO HOME AFTER WORK /SCHOOL ...AND MAKE THE BEST OF IT.......
2007-02-26 14:23:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, don't do it, you obviously have no idea how to maintain a relationship.
2007-02-26 14:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by Special Ethel 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋