me and my b/f broke up 2 days ago...we had a horrible relationship for the past year, lots of fighting and breaking up and getting back togther. this time it's done for sure..he was emotionaly abusive and it just wasnt good...im thinking i dont need much time before i start dating again, but im not sure what is a healthy break of time? o and i do not want another realtionship for a long time, just some nice dates
2007-02-26 06:12:09 · 31 answers · asked by CRAZY 8 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we were togther for 2 years and 5 months...
2007-02-26 06:14:32 · update #1
I wouldn;t really say there is this set time of how long you should be broken up before you start something new. But you can test yourself to see if you're ready at any given time.
Here are some questions to ask:
1. Can you move onto something new without comparing things in the past to the present?
2. Will the focus of your conversations be centered on your ex boyfriend?
3. Do you want to/or think you have the possibility of getting back with your ex at any time in the future?
4. Do you know what you WANT now in a relationship?
5. Since the breakup are you now emotionally healthy and secure within yourself to go out there, date and have a good time?
I'm sure you know what answers are positive and what would be a negative. If you are ready, then go out there, date and have a good time and LEAVE the past behind you. You are a new woman now and should have new wonderful experiences.
Wishing you the best!
2007-02-26 06:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by Chanel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i've been in this situasion at the begining of my relationship and but there was a kid involve and i was just becoming clean from drugs and achocol and about two months later i stopped being abuseive because i realized that i really loved this person with all my heart and now we have been toether for just about two years now and we plan on getting married within the next year or so
and getting into this realationship was after i stopped trying to find some to go out with me sio before this realationship it was almost a year before i met the love of my life.
im not sure if this help or not but i hope it did in some way
2007-02-26 06:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by liquid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only u can tell, but make sure that ur dating for the right reason..and there is no problem in going on harmless dates to get your feet wet again! but its sounds as if the break up was waiting to happen, so u might be ready to start dating sooner then if you got out of a more meaning ful relationship! get out there and have fun...take some time for yourself....good luck!!
2007-02-26 06:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by alexandra82387 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is hard to say as it varies with everyone. It also can vary if another comes along or not. Generally speaking, a few weeks may help you "clear" out past experiences with the old friend. Good luck, break ups are not easy to do. If someone is abusive however, you should have no doubts that what you are doing is best for you.
2007-02-26 06:15:37 · answer #4 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would take a little time for yourself so you can re-evaluate your needs, you might feel ready now to start dating but you have just broke up with someone you spent two years with. Basically you don't want to drag that baggage into a new relationship, but if you really feel like you are ready then go ahead, just be careful and take it slow.
2007-02-26 06:19:44 · answer #5 · answered by livlovelaugh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is not set length of time. Some people feel comfortable getting right back out there and dating right away. Others prefer to take some "me" time before jumping back on the horse. It's a personal thing that only you can decide. Good luck with whatever you choose to do .
2007-02-26 06:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by limgrn_maria 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
...hun?...take as long as you need seriously. In fact...take a few months off and go out and treat yourself right babe. Rebounding into another relationship quickly?...will only set you deeper into a new state of misguided confusion. Have a few casual dates with some respectful individuals for awhile. Try to keep the random sex with them to a minimum too. You need to go out and have some real fun for a change darling...not more confusion. Anything really good takes time my dear. When was the last time you talked with your mother reasonably? Hmmm...!!!
2007-02-26 06:21:22 · answer #7 · answered by scott s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can give you an estimated time of when you should be over someone. You will know once you're ready to get out there again.
You should focus on YOU right now. Spend time with your family and friends. Try new things, do things that make you happy. Dating will come naturally once you're ready for it again.
2007-02-26 06:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Judy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out have fun date right away but let people know you are not looking for a relationship just a friendship. There is no amount of time you should sit at home and sulk or pass up an opportunity to have fun.
Good luck and I am happy for you
2007-02-26 06:15:46 · answer #9 · answered by neicee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl, at this stage of things, whatever you do will be the right way to go. Start dating tomorrow if you feel that's right, or start dating in 2 month's time if you feel that's right.
There are no rules in this case - you did the right thing by leaving a scumbag like that, and now its time for you to have some fun! So do whatever you want.
Go, girl!!
2007-02-26 06:16:07 · answer #10 · answered by alienaviator 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋