'm 19 and been datin mi man close to 3months,'m not complaining but i find it very spooky that he has never taken me out 4 a movie,drink,lunch etc. he see's me everyday but we usually spend half of the time in his car or by his house,i wanted to ask him why he has never done that but i dont want it to seem like " am jes with him for the money" . i totaly adore him but am startin to think they could be other gurls in his life.Valentines day was jes like anyother normal day,he didnt do anythign for me,he only came ova to mi hse like durin the evenin,on his way to work. i want him to spoil me but looks like that aint gona happeen and really cant go on like this,wa u reckon?
2007-02-26 06:11:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, some guys and girls are really not into the material thing. They just value the time together more than anything else. You might need to give him a lil hint. Like maybe say something about a gift a friend of yours got and how nice it was, etc.
Also, if you are used to getting wined and dined and he isn't about that, then you might need to move on. In every relationship we have wants and needs, if those are not being met then you need to move on. Don't ever feel like your want or need is shallow or inappropriate. It is just what you like.
2007-02-26 06:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by dskillz27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a contradiction... you're not just in it for the money, but you want him to spoil you? He's not taking you out, so there must be other women?
So, just something to think about, what's going to happen when you've been married for four years and he works full time and doesn't take you out, and there are kids running around at home? There might not be money to spoil you then.
There's nothing wrong with wanting to be spoiled, but be honest with yourself. Him spending money on you is important to you, you make that obvious. I had several girlfriends that were the same way, it never bothered me, but when they tried to weasel themselves out of seeming high maintenence by saying it wasn't important, I'd stop, and inevitably they'd find some reason to leave. "I just realized you're too short for me," was my favorite. If they'd been honest, it wouldn't ever have become an issue. Be honest with yourself, and be honest with him. Tell him you want to go out, you want to be spoiled. He'll either start spoiling you more, or he'll leave, or he'll tell you that his financial situation doesn't allow for that and you can leave.
2007-02-26 14:19:44 · answer #2 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm..my bf kinda like that too. he neva spoils me with presents which i really wish he would. we're more than 3yrs now and i only have a teddy bear, a sea lion plush n a watch from him. but he always pay for my meals n groceries. so i tought what the heck, why dont i save the money that i should've spend for my meals n groceries to buys all the things i wished he bought me. i was 19 when we were coupled, so i know how u feel rite now. it really envious to see other people who dates a lots n our friends coming home with expensive gift after a date. its hard to get over it, but not all guys are romantic n alert to us. maybe we should focus on their other qualities. hopefully they surprise us
2007-02-26 14:33:00 · answer #3 · answered by nieteni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmph I agree with D
2007-02-26 14:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by spiritualism0 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find a rich old dude to spoil you...
2007-02-26 14:14:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋