I meet this girl that lives in PA and I'm in Virginia. We meet thru Eharmony. We feel/felt a connection at one point but she is unsure about the distance. We are 3hrs apart. We figured we can see each other every month and switch off like that but now, in the past week, she has distanced herself from me and I asked her what was wrong and she has told me she doesn't know about the distance. We couldn't talk much on the phone because she was at work with people around her.
....So We are going to talk more tonight about the situation but I told her before. I am willing to give it a try but I can't do it alone.
If only we were closer..........
But I am beginning to wonder, what am I going to say to her. I don't think I should have to convince her that a Long Distance relationship would work. She should want it on her own....Am I right in thinking like this????
Please leave me advice. Thank You!!
2007-02-26 06:07:22 · 6 answers · asked by fguz77 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Long distance relationships are hard in the best of times..........and it is absolutely essential that both people are on the same page for it to work....if there is doubt........on any level..things are going to be very tough......on the other hand she may just be wanting your reassurance that you are committed to this and willing to put in the effort to making it work....and 3 hours is not that much of a distance......you could do more than once a month visit with that distance.......and if things work out one of you could move to the other ...good luck
2007-02-26 06:22:18 · answer #1 · answered by mystic_whispers_of_my_soul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people believe it or not have misconceptions about long distance relationships and that they don't work and try to advise other people that they don't work, Well the truth is they can work but don't let someone else tell you they don't just because it did not work out for them, in fact if want to keep the relationship then the thing to do is keep up the communication between you and her and keep open minds for suggestions and ideas and conversation between you and her so you both can work out your problems. It will be hard as you and her are from two different states but does not mean that you and her can not visit each other, also think about all the good times you both have so that way you won't feel as blue as you already do. Sure she has to decide if she wants it and so do you but if you agree to it then just keep doing the things that you are doing and try to stay positive if she wants the same then she too will come out and say this is what I want and hopes that you will say the same thing.
2007-02-26 06:17:45 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did it once. In my case a plane ride was the only way to see each other so it got expensive quick. Get a huge phone card if your doing the extensive phone calls like I was. The phone bills will either stop the calling or make you find a better living arrangement. LD relationships are tough to pull off unless you are willing to disrupt your life. If she's not feeling it now it's probably not going to get any better.
2007-02-26 06:17:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yall both have want it to work, but that is a long distance. It would be hard and if yall make it and get married one would have to move so think about that to.....talk to her and tell her how you feel and if you really want it to work let her know. That would be costly to see each other.
2007-02-26 06:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what i think is no because she does not know what u are doing nor does u know what she is doing but if the trust is strong them go for the good stuff.
2007-02-26 06:17:10 · answer #5 · answered by rayveeka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think ur right...but its ok to be worried about it....
2007-02-26 06:11:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋