I don't want him to leave, he doesnt even seem to understand my feelings in this. He is more worried about what people wil think, especaily his bro, if he gives wp up for a gir. But we know we are soulmates, we can't explain it, but we are. I don't want to be an army wife and have my life be al about his career. Help. I don't want that chance of being alone in life, wiht him dying at war. ANy sugesstions on how to talk to him about this?
2007-02-26 06:02:46 · 7 answers · asked by samantha g 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You may see it as me being selfish but it's selfish on his part. He doesn't want me to go to med school, he wants me to go on active duty with him. He wants me to do college in three years so i can be with him, and i want to be with him. But is my ife going to be all about giving up my dreams for his dreams. If thtas selfish then it is, i just feel completely shut out and worthless. Like my dreams mean nothing and it hurts. I want to mean more to him then west point i want him to love me more that doesn't me he has to give wp, i just want to mean more to him then the army.
2007-02-26 06:39:14 · update #1
If you really loved him you would support him in anything he aspired to do. You aren't being very considerate.
You should go to med school and he should go to WP and pray about it and if you're meant to be with him it will work, if not, you'll find the right one somewhere.
2007-02-26 08:13:00 · answer #1 · answered by idk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So you want him to give up his dreams for you? When you are only bf and gf? This sounds very selfish. If he applied to West Point and got accepted, this is obviously something he has strived for and you don't want to support him. What if he doesn't go and then you break up next year. How would he feel because has given up a great chance to do something special with his life for an ex-gf.
In a relationship we all have to make choices and it seems that he is choosing to go and you are choosing to split up with him. If I were him, I would go. I made mistakes like that for a woman and now we aren't even together.
I am sorry, but your question sounds extremely self-centered and not understanding exactly what kind of chance he is being given. If you can't support him and be happy for him, then you should break it off.
2007-02-26 14:14:06 · answer #2 · answered by dskillz27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
West Point is an amazing institution and no one should ever give up the opportunity to go there. Do you even know how hard it is to get into West Point? You are asking him to choose between you and WP and that is not fair. There is no reason he can't have both adn no it does not mean he career is going to be in the Army
2007-02-26 14:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he got into wp...the application process took 1-2 years...its to late to start talking about it now. He won't be going to war for a while...but if you love him, support him...thats what "soulmates" do. If your more afraid about LDR and one of you straying that's another issue altogether. At the interview process I know they explained to him that appointments to wp are expected to be for those people who see the military as a viable option for 15-25 years.....It seems to me that he made up his mind a while ago.
2007-02-26 14:10:41 · answer #4 · answered by Experimental876 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His career is his top priority — why isn't your career YOURS? Becoming a doctor (or a nurse, or whatever it is that you want to be) is much more rewarding than being somebody's girlfriend. You're the one who needs to rethink your priorities here, dearie.
2007-02-26 14:53:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry but you are selfish, this will open up many doors for him in the future and you want to deny him that
2007-02-26 14:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by scarlett13854 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT'S NOT ALL ABOUT YOU!!!! He made his decision when he chose West Point. If it's something he wants to do, then let him.
2007-02-26 14:08:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋