I am due in 2 weeks & saturday night, I had a breakdown and cried all night to my husband. I'm not scared about the process of getting my son here. That doesn't bother me at all(which most women is does)That's not even it. I'm just depressed about it. Like I complain about how much I want him here and everything but, in reality.. I want him to stay in forever.. LoL. Just because I'm so scared what can happen to him once he's here. I know I shouldn't worry like this but, I can't help it. I was wondering what some of you done or if you even got this way? I'm going to discuss it with my doctor tomorrow but, I wanted some opinions from here. I can't explain how I'm feeling or what I'm thinking. I have thoughts about everything all the time. I can't stop it. Not bad thoughts. Just thoughts of how I can protect him better, I guess? I don't know? I just need some opinions. How did some of you get over this?
2007-02-26 06:01:07 · 10 answers · asked by tristan's mommie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I just wanted to add.. thanks for all your opinions(so far) They are very uplifting. Thanks so much for your confidence. :)
2007-02-26 06:31:15 · update #1
I went through this the last few weeks of my pregnancy. I was so excited for my son to be here but then I wanted him to stay in there forever. It is so easy to keep him safe and protected while he is inside me. I didn't have to worry about bad people hurting him or him getting hurt or anything else that can happen to him while he is out in this big bad world.
I still worry everyday about him and I do everything that i know how to keep him safe. Unfortunetly, we can't keep them in forever.
congratulations on the baby! and don't worry this is perfectly normal
2007-02-26 06:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can totally relate...I tell people that labor and delivery was the easy part...now that I am responsible for another human being for the rest of my life....that's hard.
I think it's perfectly natural to think the way you are. You have to keep reminding yourself however that in spite of what you see on the news the world is not a horrible place. In fact there are lots of beautiful and wonderful things that you get to introduce your son to. For instance I know here I just can't stand winter...from the time the first flake falls I dread the season. But now that I have a 2 year old I can see the beauty of a snowangel again and enjoy her enthusiasm for sledding and making a snowman...all the things you forget about when you "grow up".
Your Mother's intuition is going to serve you well in keeping him safe...and once your hormones return to somewhat normal levels the crying will stop. Remind yourself that it's natural...and at least your worried...so that means that you are going to be the best kind of Mom...involved!
Good luck!
2007-02-26 14:14:31 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Think about the fact that you survived your childhood and so did everyone that you know. Your son is going to be okay. Perhaps you can shift your focus to the things you are looking forward to and try to concentrate on that. It's scary, but women have been doing this for centuries, and the way the whole thing works, you will have plenty of time to adjust, to get to know your son and the two of you will grow together, you as a parent and your son as a beautiful child. Congratulations. I know that you love your son very much because of how you worry. So I know that you will be a wonderful mom and do a great job.
2007-02-26 14:19:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good thing your have a dr. appt. tomorrow. DO not LET him or her blow you off!!!!! Don't leave without at least a reference...
What you are feeling IS normal, but the degree to which you feel it is not. Whatever it is due to, It is not very likely to just go away on its own. I think you need to be proactive about your overanxiety, because feeling caught up and helpless in the face of these feelings is not going to be good for anyone in your family!
You must be realistic about how much "protection" you could possibly provide for your child. Some of this just comes with experience. Most 1st time mothers totally freak out at their baby's first physical mishap, especially if a bit of blood is involved LOL
2007-02-26 14:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by and_y_knot 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's just part of motherhood.
I have these images that flash in my head of terrible things that could happen to him...and it horrifies me...
But you just keep on keeping on and do the best you can for him and make sure he stays out of harms way.
I had that a little bit too while I was still pregnant...and now its about when he walks...
I'm scared that when he starts walking he'll hurt himself or get into something that will hurt him...even though I don't ever let him out of my sight...
I don't even want to think about when he drives!!!
or dates some hoochie trampy girl!!!
OMG! Ya I think it's part of motherhood...you just want the best and you want them to be safe and happy ...and in my head I know that I have to back off in order for that to happen...but it's hard.
I feel your pain mamma...I think it's normal...talk to your doc...but don't go getting medicated or anything unless you really really can't function without it...you're baby needs your 100%.
Good Luck!! And Congratulations!!
2007-02-26 14:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your hormones are probably out of whack plus you are depressed ! It is normal to fear for your child that is what parents do ! I am sure he will turn out great and handsome&smart like my son did!! A little advice here it doesn't matter how old your children are you still worry about them! You sound like you are going to be a great mom so relax and enjoy the ride of LIFE &god bless &good Luck!!!!!!!!!
2007-02-26 14:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by linda bug 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are completely normal. I have two wonderful children and let me tell you- the worring never stops! We can not protect our children from ever being hurt. All we can do is love them,teach them right from wrong and pray that God will guide and protect them through this life. Try to relax. I am sure you will be a wonderful mother.
2007-02-26 14:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by phoenix74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there it's normal. First of all your hormones are all out of whack from the pregnancy and especially of you're a new mom you are going to worry. I wish I had some advice I just wanted to reassure you that it's normal hang in there.
2007-02-26 14:10:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your first pregnancy it's normal to be scared for the first time. You will be o.k. once the baby arrives. You do get depressed but most of it is more excitement than anything.
2007-02-26 14:09:45 · answer #9 · answered by vivian t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS VERY NATURAL I DID IT W/ALL 4 OF MY BOYS I BELEIVE THIS IS HOW YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE GOING TO BE GOOD PARENT IF YOU DIDN'T WORRY ABOUT YOUR CHILD WHAT KIND OF PARENT WOULD YOU BE
2007-02-26 14:10:49 · answer #10 · answered by JEN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋