i have messed up really bad, i slept with my bf and i am 15
i have done the worst. and i dont want to live in this world anymore...my parents found out and i have been past the last 48 in a living nightmare
i have to break up with him but i care so much for him and i dont want to ....but i am going to because i cant lie anymore,according to my parents i cant talk to him, send him notes, i cant even look at him.... i feel horrible about the whole thing but my parents think i only think about myself and that i dont care about how they feel, but i do, i do very much, and i have regain their trust again
i dont know how to cope with this. so i need a little help.....
and a word of advice to others or younger.......dont be stupid, talk and be honest because lying only gets you in a deep whole, even if you can think you can get away with it, you cant so... dont
2007-02-26 05:57:39 · 21 answers · asked by its her. ♥ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Don't mean to be cliche either but been there done that. I went through the whole situation of my parents finding out I lost my virginity to my bf around the same age as you. You may feel ashamed and feel like you cannot face your parents but fact of the matter is it is human nature and everyone in this world progresses at different ages. Your parents need to put themselves in your shoes and remember what is like to be young. Hopefully you were at least careful when you slept with your bf. Perhaps you should talk to your parents and let them know that while you made a mistake you did take the proper precautions and did protect yourself (will display some responsibility for your actions) . Also something that you may suggest, if you truly love you bf is a compromise with your parents, agree and stick with only going out of "group" dates with your bf, Still being aloud to see him and talk to him as long as you are not put in the position where you can "disobey" them again. Let them know that you unstand you have to regain their trust and are willing to prove your self as a responsible young adult. Good luck!
2007-02-26 06:18:37 · answer #1 · answered by tmjgmw 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It must seem very overwhelming for you right now, with all the drama happening with your boy and family. BUT it's not the end of the world! Not even close. First, you need to put your pride aside and sit down and talk with your parents. If they know what you were thinking, and that you know you made a poor judgement choice in sleeping with him, they might feel a little closer to you, which will help you rebuild your trust. Ask them what you could've done differently and talk to them about similar situations they've had while your age.
You'll be surprised at how 'mature' they think you are if you handle it this way.
Forget your boyfriend, anyone who would pressure you into something - which is considered 'statutory rape' btw, isn't worth dating.
2007-02-26 06:09:58 · answer #2 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this is a very difficult time for you right now, this sucks a lot. it may seem like it now, but sleeping with your bf is not the worst you can do, not by a long shot. at least you were being sexually active with someone you were in a relationship with, and not sleeping around with just anyone. your parents are just in a big shock right now, since this is probably the first time they've been forced to wake up and realize that you're not a little girl anymore, so it's natural for them to freak out about it. it's going to take some time for them to get over this, in the meantime just try to stay under the radar, maybe earn some brownie points by cleaning the house or something. good luck, & keep your chin up!
2007-02-26 06:22:00 · answer #3 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart. I know at 15 this seems like the worst thing in the world that could happen. But I promise you, you will get through this and you will be alright. You don't have to worry about the bf you just need to concentrate on school and making your parents happy that is the only thing that you can do. Your parents love you the are just disappointed right now in time things will get better I know that sounds mundane but it does hold true.
2007-02-26 06:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of me as a much older brother or your best girlfriends dad.
I'm sorry that life has hit you so hard at 15. You may not see it but there is a rainbow at the end of this storm. You have parents that care about you, and you actually said in so many words that you care about your parents. I know you hurt really bad now, but learn from the experience. Show your mom and dad you really do care about them. You have two positive things going for you please, don't mess it up. Good luck and hold your head high! G
2007-02-26 06:19:51 · answer #5 · answered by glencosalsa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I'm 25 i remember being in your shoes at 15. Don't worry it will get better it will pass. Your parents only want the best for you and well as far as the boyfriend I wouldn't give up on it give it time. And your parents will trust with time. Show you care tho help around the house more talk to them more. Be with them more it will all be ok with time. Sorry time is a big factor tho :) Hang in there.
2007-02-26 06:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by Amie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear what you are going through. It isn't the end of the world. I know you are in an awkward stage right now. You are a teen bursting to be an adult. Let those adult things happen when you are an adult. Respect your parents because they are only doing what is in your best interest. You will be a mom someday and do the same thing. (Don't say you won't because I promise you will...wink!)
Hang it there. It will get better. Who knows you and this guys path may cross again someday. If it was meant to be it will.
Good luck!
2007-02-26 06:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really made a bad move but it's not the end of the world, however i think you should listen to your parents because they only want the best for you, starting from now on think about the future, sex can wait until you're older and at that time time I can assure you you will enjoy it. Don't be so hard on your self o.k, cheer up.
2007-02-26 06:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by sexinessloveness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you're in pain. I think your parents were probably shocked about things and told that you couldn't see him anymore out of anger. I would just lay low for a couple of days until they calm down. Then try explaining to them how you feel about your bf and that you know you made a mistake, but that you love him and you're sorry that you've lied. You've made mistakes by lying, but everything will be okay in the end. Your parents love you and want the best for you. Just calm down. This too shall pass. :)
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2016-10-02 00:49:33 · answer #10 · answered by boice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋