I was dating this guy for 3 years, we got engaged the last year of the relationship. Six months ago we broke up; I ended it because I felt like he did not appreciate what he had at home. For example he stayed out late and I found out he was talking to an ex on the phone. Besides that no real extreme issues. I was just fed up so I ended it. He pleaded and pleaded to try to work it out...I ignored him and his calls. I recently ran into him at a get to gather our friends had. We had not seen each other in almost 6 months. I knew he was there but he did not know I was coming. He was shocked! We all (friends and him) talked about our break up. He says he has really changed and realized what a good person he lost. Should I believe him and give him another chance?
2007-02-26 05:56:07 · 26 answers · asked by female83 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that everyone deserves a second chance in life and maybe once in a lifetime a third chance. Let me tell you that sometimes we don't realize what a great person we have in our lives and sometimes we need to lose them to realize all of the things that we are not seeing. He must know now that you are a great woman and with all of your flaws he still loves you. If you can look past all of the negative stuff well maybe you should give him a second chance. I know that I once gave a man a second chance and he made me the happiest woman on earth. Know that you are not perfect and that neither is he, and you should follow your heart and align with the faith that you have in a higher power and allow for your love to flourish. A second chance is just great to be able to start over and allow for that person to feel like they too can love and make someone as great as they say you are happy. I say this with much love in my heart and though I don't know you I can tell you that I am getting a good feeling in my heart like something good will come from this. Love and be loved. Love and treat everyone great and trust me it will all reflect back to you. Love.
2007-02-26 06:03:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not rush into anything at first. Start by talking on the phone and see how that is going. Find out why it went on the brinks before you ended it. What made him feel he had to talk to his ex? Why was he staying out late? Start by asking yourself some questions or you will end up where you left off back to the problem. Sometimes we do take people for granted so also maybe you and him needed the space. Only time will tell. Also get advice from people in your life that Knew you and him well like your best friend, your parents. etc and see what they also say about this. Words of wisdom come from those on the outside. GO Slowly....
2007-02-26 06:04:13 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should give him another chance if he says he has changed his ways.
If you were dating for three years I would think that he deserves the chance to show you that he does appreciate what he has at home.
Its been 6 months and you have not found anybody else because down deep inside you do want him back.
2007-02-26 06:06:45 · answer #3 · answered by coffeemate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i recently went thru the same exact thing..the whole thing and what i decided was to go on a date and try to get to know him again and see if he had really change...and everything was great on the date, but on new years i found out somethings i didn't want to hear about him and i just hurt me so much i have not talked to him since!
My point is if its just a date offer take it you wouldn't know anything if you didn't just take the chance. i mean who knows he proberly did change. and if he has change and you do open your heart to him once again let him know that he can't do anything that will hurt you again or this is your last chance.... good luck!
2007-02-26 06:07:06 · answer #4 · answered by Beautifull 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love him and want to be with him, then I'd say yes, give it another chance. But make sure you let him know that you won't tolerate any of his past behavior. Do not get engaged again any time soon. I would probably wait another year. So if he asks, say no and tell him why. You should take your time to determine for yourself if he has changed. If he hasn't, dump him again.
2007-02-26 06:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by Matt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, he will just have to prove it to you. You will need to forgive whatever bad thoughts you harbor inside. I would also get premarital counseling and don't have intimacy. Get to know one another first, find out what you can live with. Realize you cannot change a person unless they want to change. Then, make the decision to move further in the relationship.
2007-02-26 06:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by VW 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a sin to talk to an ex on the phone? Is he friends with his ex's? Are you friends with yours? Wouldn't you want to be? Maybe it was just a talk, you know he could have been talking about you the whole time! Maybe you aren't ready for the commitment to HIM... If you wanted him bad enough, and knew him well enough, you wouldn't have any doubts, and would have been able to talk to him about the conversation he had with his ex instead of just bailing........
2007-02-26 06:07:21 · answer #7 · answered by bossfemale 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, give him another chance. There were no major issues, right? No cheating, etc. He sounds like he was just being a guy. Give him a second shot1
2007-02-26 05:59:41 · answer #8 · answered by napqueen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes
2007-02-26 05:59:19 · answer #9 · answered by Fissure 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely, but be cautious and get out as soon as you sense a problem - especially if it involves an ex. Good luck and hope things work out for you!
2007-02-26 06:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋