i've been told by my friends that i look bitchy and impatient when i don't want a guy that i'm not interested to talk to me. ex: if i see a group of guys standing in a corner none of which are my type( usually the extremely ghetto, aggressive, player types) i automatically put on this cold exterior i didn't even know i was doing this; until one day a male friend friend from work saw a guy trying to talk to me whom i didn't like and i was so uncomfortable with him talking to me that i gave short one word answers and got a little cold. when it was over my friend turned to me and said " he was just trying to talk to you" i felt so bad! does anyone else feel like this? i'm really actually a very nice person (warm and affectionate) can some one please help me!!
2007-02-26 05:29:54 · 5 answers · asked by ponypuffgirl 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
oh just to clear up any confusion its only when the guy is making an obvious romantic offer, like aking me if i have a man or if i want to get with them. if he's just talking to me its ok i can deal with that.
2007-02-26 05:46:05 · update #1
it seems like you need to be attracted to the guy you talk too... or at least like him... thats fine.. its your personality.. im pretty outgoing.. and enjoy talking or flirting.. doesnt mean your looking to make a move.. but just enjoy the attention your getting.. you must be attractive.. too get the guys attention in the first place...
2007-02-26 05:37:12 · answer #1 · answered by david_morris712005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, for some people you need to be cold or bitchy to get across that you are not interested in anything, even friendship. But it sounds like you might have to realize that everyone is not interested in you like that. Some guys might genuinely only want to talk to you, and be your friend.
I have a friend that seemingly has some of the same personality traits as you. She is totally rude and really cold to most guys, even friends. She seems to think that all guys are trying to get in her pants, so she puts up this shield. That really does nothing but drive people away and anyone who is aggressive enough to fight through that shield has not exactly been the right kind of guy for her.
My advice would be to just try to be nice to guys. I am not talking about kissing their a$$, I am just talking about being nice as you would any girl who approaches you. If he tries to pursue more than friendship, then you tell him you are not interested. No need to put an end to a friendship before it begins by giving a guy the cold shoulder from day one.
2007-02-26 05:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by dskillz27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking with someone doesn't necessarily mean you like them romantically - who knows, you might meet someone you like for reasons other than their appearance! being more approachable and smiling and talking with everyone just might snag you a dream guy you wouldn't have looked twice at otherwise. you'd be surprised what you can learn just by random conversations!
2007-02-26 05:41:08 · answer #3 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way because guys can't handle rejection....even if you put sweet honey on it...still it doesn't work
2007-02-26 05:35:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
smile and say you are not interested
2007-02-26 05:33:42 · answer #5 · answered by ressie re 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋