ok i lost my mom when i was 10..she was my world to me ...she really loved me and i loved her too...since her death i never really felt love...i was left alone...i am still not over her death...and i think i will never ever be.
But there is this strange fear in my mind...fear of being in love with someone..i am scared that if i ever fallin love with someone i will loose that person to death also...so i just run away from love...i wana be alone for the rest of my life..i dont wana be with anyone.
being alone does hurt me...but still i cant help myself..i dont wana love anyone.
This is not normal i know.
anyone ever felt this way before? what will be my future? i think i am not living for more than 10 more years , i am 20 right now.
y do i run away from ppl?
2007-02-26 05:28:33 · 7 answers · asked by Hummingbird 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
It's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all... story of my life! As we grow older things that happened early in our lives affect us - that must b what happened 2 u. Don't be afraid of love, it's the most beautiful emotion life has 2 offer
2007-02-26 06:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by Ashbabe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Angie,
It is normal to feel this way, your mom's death left a huge impact on you. A child's mind (when you were 10) reacts differently than an adult. It affected the way you developed emotionally. Love is hard no matter what happens to you in life, and you are not alone in feeling scared, a lot of people feel this way. Love does mean getting hurt, it happens to us all, it again is part of growing and maturing. But it is also beautiful and fulfilling. Even though your mom died a long time ago, you might try giving yourself time to grieve again and release. This could just mean having lots of good cries. Also write down your feeling every morning, whatever they may be-get those feelings out! If you have a close friend to talk to, just ask them to listen as you "spill" your feeling out, no advice back needed. Sometimes, just having someone to listen helps. Also, take baby steps, open yourself up to others slowly, it takes practice to love and trust. Make a commitment to yourself to do it. No risk, no gain. You will learn a lot about yourself and others, a valuable tool for your whole life. Remind yourself daily that you deserve to be happy, because you do!
2007-02-26 05:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by think4yourself 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My father died when I was 5. I had a fear all through my childhood that my mother would die and I would be alone. Once I was in my late teens, I realized that I could make it if something happened to her. You can't hide your whole life because you're afraid that people will die. For some reason you blame yourself or think you had something to do with your mother's death. Even if you don't think so, that is subconsciously what you think. And you think loving someone else--they'll die because of you, too. It's not about you. People die and you have no control over it. It's not because of anything you did.
2007-02-26 05:39:48 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never be afraid of love because of death..were all dying and are in the process of dying. right now you are dying..But the good news is death cannot stop love life is only worth living when you love with your whole heart,have faith and give of yourself trust God and believe death is only a door if you cannot do this your already dead and nothing that you do matters anyway..In Love
2007-02-26 05:36:59 · answer #4 · answered by Will Stone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You answered your own question...
Read back your questions and tell yourself why... Then take the steps you need to reverse it.
We are the culmination of our past experiences and usually don't just snap out of a state or condition we have learned by example...especially a painful one.
Im sorry for your loss... You really need to talk to someone on a personal level, and begin to heal.
Life is and always will be exactly what you make it...
Good luck...
2007-02-26 05:33:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 21....and i do it too. Not for the same reasons as you, but close enough. I'm afraid to get hurt, therefore, i never open myself up to anyone because i feel vulnerable. This is the quote that i live by
"Love deeply, and Love Passionately, you may get hurt, but it's the only way to live."
2007-02-26 05:35:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL, I KNOW YOUR FEELINGS ...THE BEST THING IS TO TAKE THAT STEP AND GO INTO A RELATIONSHIP ..YOU WILL KNOW NOTHING WILL WORK UNLESS YOU ACTUALLY TAKE THAT STEP ! GOOD LUCK..GOD BLESS YOU!
2007-02-26 05:58:52 · answer #7 · answered by Swm 39 4 Younger Swf Forever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋