I am 27, recently separated ,my ex fully provides for me on a high standard. Even before marriage i was well off due to highly paid modelling jobs.
Starting a well paid job in summer..
6 weeks ago I met and fell in love with the guy who is 5 years younger and a student.
but last week it went wrong after I said I am getting emotionally involved and like him a lot and said i am not sure we should continue dating because i like him too much!He got very upset and said he doesn't want to stop seing me, but somehow since than he has changed to me.
now the guy is saying that he needs time alone, he likes me but he "can't afford" a girl like me, i always talk about money directly or inderectly, and he is sick and tired of it. In fact he sais he felt so offended that I made a point that i am used to high life that he doesn't feel like seing me any more.
I truly apologised, and I begged him to let me know whether its over or not, but he refuses to comment, just sais he needs time alone..
2007-02-26 05:25:29 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do as he says for once......Leave him alone!!!!!!
2007-02-26 05:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by Luxy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Damn you are 27. You sound 16.
1. An adult does not fall in love in 6 weeks. You are just getting to know the man.
2. You do talk about money too much, it was the first thing you wrote about. How your ex gives you this and you used to be a model.
3. Why is this decision in his hands? Why would you want a man that wont give you the simple courtesy of telling you if its over or not?
Whatever the outcome, you come off as very, very shallow and if that is not the way you want to be seen, take some time and work on yourself.(the inside, not the outside.) If you dont mind being shallow, then be happy, but accept that there are people that do not agree.
2007-02-26 13:33:51 · answer #2 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He obviously feels like he's not good enough for you or as good as you and will never be able to provide you with all the things you want and need. Just let him know that you love him as he is and it doesn't matter to you how much money he has. All that matters is that you two can be together and start a life together. Let him know you just got lucky in life and you want to share it with him and if he makes a lot of money later on, great, if not, it doesn't matter and it won't change how you feel about him. But instead of asking if it's over, tell him you don't want it to be over and something as silly as money should never get in the way. Happiness does not come from money, it comes from being with someone you love.
2007-02-26 13:37:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mal123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's only 22 and therefore still a kid really, plus you say he's a student, with lots of new people around all the time. It sounds very much as if he's having second thoughts about being involved with someone who is emotionally attached to him, and who is obviously a lot more financially secure than he is. That must seem quite threatening to him. You need to step back, show that you can survive on your own. It sounds as if you've not really been on your own before, give him space, don't beg! If he decides he wants to see you, then see how it goes, but don't push as you'll probably push him away.
2007-02-26 13:33:04 · answer #4 · answered by Ellie L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your focus on money has scared him off. He has already seen your home and car and knows that you have money and he is just a student.
He does not know if he will ever make enough money to support you in the lifestyle that you are accustomed to. By your "always" talking about money you have made him extremely uncomfortable.
I would give him that space he has asked for, but there is a good chance that he will not be back. Men are still raised to believe that we are supposed to be the bread winners and he may just not want to go back to the position of possibly being supported by you.
You can find a man, but you will need to drastically reduce your discussion of money.
Take care,
Troy
2007-02-26 13:39:56 · answer #5 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let this be a lesson to you in life. If you brag alot about how wonderful your ritzi life style is, then you will maybe miss out on a wonderful person. No man wants to be belittled cause you are used to the high life. How long do you think your looks will last? True love, and good friends, will last a lifetime. Now it is too little too late. Next time, get off your high horse, and come down to reality.
2007-02-26 13:32:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to relax that you really like him but you are taking your time, you should not have told him so soon however because he has been thinking how can he afford you Everything takes time he'll graduate and in the mean time you will be strenghtening your relationship for the better hopefully Guys get scared when love and emotions are involved so don't be hard on him and don't repeat it anymore until he shows he is ready for deep commitment God Bless
2007-02-26 13:31:19 · answer #7 · answered by jkfranklin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you're 'emotionally involved' comment got to him.
It may be that he's worried he's the 'rebound' man since you're recently separated, etc. OR it could be that he's worried about finishing school and that you are high maintenence. even if you've never asked him for anything, it probably bothers him that you make more money and have established a career- where he is still in school.
2007-02-26 13:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might be intimidated by your success and the fact that you may make more money then him for a long time. This may make him feel insecure, you just need to remind yourself to act very humble around him and not insist on going to any expensive places and all that....it's hard because you shouldn't be punished for being successful and you deserve what you worked for. He should remember that too.
2007-02-26 13:33:11 · answer #9 · answered by kj 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needed an out and this is it. He is only 22(very immature) and he probably didn't want anything serious. What is this garbage that you like him too much to keep seeing him? What did you expect him to say after that? You were a nice distraction for him, and probably for you too. Go out and meet some men who you have things in common with and take it slow.
2007-02-26 13:30:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't feel up to your standards, maybe he thinks you deserve more? I know a guy that is similar to that. He just doesn't feel up to your standards, he thinks that you are just a better over all person than he is, and he doesn't deserve u. Tell him your on the same level. Have a deep discussion about your expections.
but if i may ask.. could you answer my latest question. im in need of major help! thanks. that would mean a lot.
2007-02-26 13:28:35 · answer #11 · answered by Skye 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋