well i thought that i might lose the love of my life if i dint have sex with so i did and now thats all we do is **** so help
2007-02-26 05:17:54 · 31 answers · asked by lakto32002 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
absolutely not.. respect yourself... Never do this.. If he loves you he will wait for you.If this is all he was after for you to stay he never cared.Men are so uncaring at times.Find someone who respects and loves you.. Someone who cares for your feelings. You shouldnt feel that all you do is *** .. It is so much more, when its special.. Dont ever do something you know you shouldn't.Follow your gut. Value yourself..Dont let him use you like that.
Do what you think is right, I have been there. And regret my bad decisions..Nothing you can do now, but make it right. learn from mistakes.. In the future dont take the next step for this reason. or too soon wait until you are truly ready.. There are so many risks involved.. Now that you have, It will be harder to stop now and in the future.. Try to do the right thing and follow your heart..If you want to talk I'm here.. email k I remember thinking to myself over and over omgod what am i doing omg... Its okay calm down and make it right...I'm here if you like to talk start over and find someone else..Its harder for you now that you have given in to him. and shared yourself. talk with him if you wish to stay and tell him what you want to do. If you dont want to stay move on now. This does happen ,learn from it and do better next time..Good luck and best wishes
2007-02-26 05:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by luvtopaint 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not have sex just to keep someone around. You should have it if you love the person and want to share something special with him. Likewise if he loves you enough to reciprocate it becomes a beautiful thing. Sex is a lot more than just rubbing your privates together to get your rocks off, when you do it with someone you really love it becomes a beautiful thing and it won't become the basis of your relationship but rather an extension of it which represents your love for each other.
2007-02-26 13:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by sinkablehail1978 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is no. You should make love only when you both feel like it. Anything else is a form of abuse. If there is nothing there but sex, then it will get old, and one of you will leave the other. There should be a lot more going on than just sex... friendship for one thing.
2007-02-26 13:22:55 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've made your relationship with him a lot like that of a married couple. And if you really want to keep him, then you should now insist that he marry you.
Perhaps he likes banging you so much that now he is the one who will not want to loose you. And this is your chance to insist that if he wants to continue having sex with you as though you are his wife, then he should marry you and be your lawful husband.
And if he refuses, then you are keeping him for nothing. In that case, you might as well start looking for another man who is more marriage minded than this guy is.
2007-02-26 13:36:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Based on the information provided in your question, it sounds like you aren't ready to have an intimate relationship with "the love of your life." If you really love him, and he really loves you, then you'll find a way to work it out. Unlike the previous people who have replied to your question, I don't think your boyfriend is necessarily a sex obsessed, jerk. Like many couples there is a sexual imbalance in your relationship, and it appears that you're doing what you need to do to keep "the love of your life" happy. As long as the sex is concensual, and as long as you feel like he loves you (this is questionable based on your "sex is all we do" comment) then this guy is ok. He's not necessarily a jerk. But, you have to make sure that you're getting what you need out of this relationship too instead of acting like a doormat.
2007-02-26 13:29:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always be comfortable in a relationship. If the other person is doing something, or making you do something that you are not comfortable with, then it's not a good relationship. If this type of behavior is something that you enjoy, then I say its fine. I would speak with him and ask him why this is so important to him. Be honest and be yourself.
2007-02-26 13:22:25 · answer #6 · answered by quortnie11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should'nt have to prove you love someone by having sex with them. If all he wants is sex, he does'nt really love you.There are men out there who are willing to not have sex until they get married. I think it's best if the person you're with wants to be with you because, he enjoys you and who you are, and not what he can get from you sexually. To me, he is just using you to get what he wants. Take care, and best wishes.
2007-02-26 13:24:46 · answer #7 · answered by gemandsue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldnt have.....seriously you shudnt.....apart from sex is one of the greatest sins and a bad thing to do before marriage you shudnt have done that jus to keep a guy....cumon if he wud really luv you he wud hav been wid u wether u hav sex or not,,,its obvious that guy doesnt love you he's into this relation jus becoz he wants to hav sex........n u r saying all he wants is sex.......so he's wid u for sex only..........................personal advice....dun eva hav sex again jus to be with sumone,,,there is this hwole wide world out there and theres sumone fo everyone.....n GOD is great if ull respect him and dont do what he has forbidden us to do....than i m 100% sure he'll be gud and alwayz there fo u.....
2007-02-26 13:29:08 · answer #8 · answered by pSyChO 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What happens in 3 months or 1 year when you cant stand sacrificing for him
then what do you do?
2007-02-26 13:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by god knows and sees else Yahoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Anyone who requires that kind of intimacy just to be your boyfriend is not a boy friend. The guy would be considered selfish and insensitive. Is that the kind of boy "fiend" you want? (Typo intended)
2007-02-26 13:22:11 · answer #10 · answered by Kerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋