I don't believe in relationships anymore.
I find that, if there is good in someone else, traits that you admire, respect, find appropriate or positive, etc, why should you try to claim that person for yourself?
Isn't it wholly a selfish and possessive act, to find a good person, and try to steal them for your own?
This isnt a completely new idea, I know, but it's a new decision I've made.
I now prefer respect, appreciation, and caring but without any claims or demands, and without any obligations. No interference in the other person's life. No relationship, no ties, none of that.
Brign out the flowers and peace symbols, I feel like a hippie. :) I would love to meet another person who felt and lived the same way, with freedom for self, freedom for others.... :)
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2007-02-26 05:17:01 · 17 answers · asked by Yentl 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well not just marriage! A date, gf/bf etc too!
2007-02-26 05:23:05 · update #1
Listen Im not depressed, and I've had nothing but beautiful and positive relationships with men who adore me! But I still think this way inside, no matter how positive the relationships are.
2007-02-26 05:24:34 · update #2
I've already met someone who wanted to give his life to me. I've already been in love. I come to this conclusion AFTER these experiences, not before. I still ask myself: "what for"? (about relationships)
2007-02-26 05:26:34 · update #3
I said nothing about sex. In fact, I do not and will not engae in it. To me, no loving relationship = no sex.
2007-02-26 05:27:35 · update #4
Love is selfish and imperfect, because people are....
2007-02-26 05:29:10 · update #5
I like what you have to say and there should be more people around like you. Unfortunately there aren't and our society strives to eradicate behavior like this. Good luck with your endeavor and I hope it works out. But I do have a question for you. Is this so that you wont be possessed by another or to keep you from asserting ownership over someone else? What are you going to do when you meet someone special that wants to be yours and yours alone?
2007-02-26 05:23:50 · answer #1 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hmm i think its a good idea untill a certain point i believe why get into a relationship unless you know you are going to marry that person
its really pointless if you arent going to settle in a d get married
but i do know that as humans we crave to have safety and comfort in married or even in knowing that one person wants you and no on else
if you find that right girl that makes you smile every day and you cant seem to see your future with out then marry her so you can have a relationship together start a family even
being in a relationship isnt just about makeing sure you girl doesnt date anyone else
it means that both of you dont want to date others or you only want to share intamite things with that person and you only have room in your hert for that one person
being in a relationship should be about love between you and your girl not you and have of the world babe
2007-02-26 13:27:47 · answer #2 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a relationship (of some sort) with any person you interact with. A romantic relationship doesn't include "stealing" anyone. It's a mutual desire between two people to spend time with each other on a level different than friendship. If they desire, they may have an "open" relationship in which they see other people, separately, or a swinging relationship where they see other people together....but always returning to each other (kind of like "home base).
The idea of stealing someone or claiming them makes them seem like objects or luggage. I've never looked at relationships that way.
However, do what works for you...sounds like you just want to casually date/play (which is fine if you are honest about it) but are trying to put a prettier spin on it. âº
2007-02-26 13:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i felt like that for a long time after the end of my marriage... i failed to see around me all of the happy people in truly good relationships.. i think settling down and getting married is about building a life together.. and marriage is an important first step in that process.. but if you think of yourself as someone that doesn't need that then go for the countless meaningless 'relationships', just make sure the other person feels the same way or feelings will get hurt! :) good luck
2007-02-26 13:22:22 · answer #4 · answered by ooh baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok then. So, if the person you are seeing is not yours, like you don't have a relationship with that person, then that means if he/she has sex with another it wouldn't be a problem to you...
Again, if the person flirts with other girls, it should be fine with you; as long he's affectionate and generous to you...
I am not trying to be disrespectful, but a dog has the same philosophy as yours. he/she would make love to all 12 male/female dogs because he/she loves them all equally and doesn't believe in relationship with a specific partner.
So, your new philosophy is being a dog. Good luck. Watch out for aids though.
2007-02-26 13:23:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Being in a relationship is a two-way thang. How are you possessing someone when they are in the relationship with you? Its called 'sharing' Relationships are not binding and ANYONE can get out of ANY relationship ANY time they want to. I can assume you been hurt a lot..who hasn't. Hopefully we all live and learn. This is your philosophy and your entitled to it. I wish you well.
2007-02-26 13:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A relationship is a joining of two people. You've lost your damn mind if you think that you're going to live your life w/o someone by your side. I love my boyfriend. He doesn't take away from me and doesn't stop me from having friendly relations with others. He hasn't stolen me away from the world...He makes me whole,...a better person than I was.
2007-02-26 13:22:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I agree with you...it's human nature to want to control the things in our life...
However I differ, in that I hold the opinion that I would like to share my life and grow old with another person....that includes daily living....however....I do like my freedom and so whoever meets my requirements will have to appreciate my independence...Peace Out!!!
2007-02-26 13:26:15 · answer #8 · answered by Gargirl™® 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you ain't gonna do it.... a few years down the road, you're gonna find someone who you want to be in a relationship with.... you are gonna want someone to yours and only yours, and if anyone else tries to move in, you are gonna flip..... and you aren't trying to "claim that person for yourself" and it's not a "wholly a selfish and possessive act, to find a good person, and try to steal them for your own," it's love....
2007-02-26 13:24:00 · answer #9 · answered by Metallico 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My reaction cannot be in your favor, as it sounds as though you want to do nothing for anyone--just do your thing and leave people in the dust.
Remember that in the days of the real hippies, there was no HIV/AIDS.
2007-02-26 13:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋