He and I really like eachother a lot and I think there may be a future for us. He is not currently a practicing Wiccan, but he still believes the way they do. I need to know how to tell him that this really bothers me. We can never be really serious unless one of us is willing to convert. There is absolutley no way I would ever become Wiccan. I don't want to make him angry, but at the same time I want to let him know what the bible says about other gods. Please, I only want Christians to answer. I do not want to be ridiculed by anyone who is Wiccan. If you are rude, I will report you! Thanks!!
2007-02-26 05:04:55 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
For those that are suggesting a relationship could work, I will not be unequally yoked, the bible speaks against it.
2007-02-26 05:17:16 · update #1
Thank you for all the positive answers. I told him I cannot see him anymore. I told him I am not willing to convert and I am sure he isn't either. I told him if he decides he wants to know more about christianity he can ask me. I also told him I didn't want him converting just to be able to date me. Please no more answers!! I cannot pick a best answer and close the question to anymore answers until it has been posted for 4 hours, but I do not need anymore advice. Thanks again and God bless!!
2007-02-26 06:14:30 · update #2
Just my opinion here, even so, do as you want. The Bible asks what does light have to do with darkness. The natural answer is "nothing". The Bible also goes on to remind us not to be unequally yoked to unbelievers.
In principle, you should not have any romantic involvement with this fellow beyond just a "hello, how are you" type friendship. People who end up getting married or emotionally involved with these people who are known before hand to be virtually an enemy of the Cross are asking for problems.
In essence you are knowing getting involved with a man who is not just a sinner, but a direct enemy of God.
Having said that - Its your call. If you ignore the tenants of the Bible for romance, you (figuratively speaking) accepted the spawn of Satan over Christ.
There are so many other men on this planet - so don't feel that this guy is your only hope at happiness. Satan too offers happiness . A worldly happiness that can not compare to the riches and joy we have waiting in store.
2007-02-26 05:23:37 · answer #1 · answered by Victor ious 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
From what you write here, you're being not entirely honest even with us. You wrote "We can never be really serious unless one of us is willing to convert."
But then you added " There is absolutley no way I would ever become Wiccan."
So what you *actually* mean is that is he isn't willing to convert, you will not allow the relationship to develop further. Why even pretend by saying "unless one of us is willing to convert" when that's not what you mean?
Tell him. Be honest, for your own sake and for his. Say it as bluntly as you ought to have put it here: "If you are not willing to convert to (my form of) Christianity, we can't have anything more than a casual friendship."
He needs to know this about you. He deserves to have the opportunity to make an informed choice.
Blessings to you both.
2007-02-26 06:02:57 · answer #2 · answered by Praise Singer 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me just say, first of all, for those that may riducle you, your idea that you want to be with someone who believes the way you do is okay, just as if someone wasnt willing to marry or date a criminal, everyone has a prefrence, this is yours and its FINE!
Second of all, my best friend is seeing someone with seperate beliefs than hers, and while she likes him she is also not willing to compromise what she wants, and so I'll tell you the same way I told her.
Just explain to him your position, and why you feel like you do, and make sure he knows its not personal, that he is an awesome person, but you have a concern. And go from there. If he is willing to hear what you have to say, then youve opened the door to the conversation, and if not, you'll have to make a desicion from there. Just be kind, and tolerant, and things will go smoothly.
Good Luck to you!
2007-02-26 05:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by sweetie_baby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don’t think you have a lot of choice in the matter, at some point you’re going to have confront him on the issue. I’ve had relationship breakup over religion and looking back if I had spoken my concerns a little sooner things might have been different. Regardless, this is a good chance to see how he really feels about you. If he takes the time to hear what you have to say and then takes it to heart, then you might have a pretty good guy there. If he belittles your view in any way then you might want to start looking for a new boyfriend, one who values your opinion.
2007-02-26 05:17:35 · answer #4 · answered by master_fargone 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Patty...the only way to resolve this is simply for the two of you to talk. You need to tell him..."I feel like our beliefs may be a problem for us and we should discuss them."
One thing you might want to do is get some understanding of the Wiccan belief and what exactly they do. Someone who is a true Wiccan and not a tv wanna be...is a very serious believer, but what they believe is not necessarily bad. It might help you in how you view his beliefs.
Good luck.
2007-02-26 05:11:23 · answer #5 · answered by pst 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatly if one of you MUST convert in order for you to have a relationship- things probibly arn't going to work out.
You have to understand that religious beliefs are an extremely personal thing, someone cannot just get up one day and decide they believe in god as you see them.
I am agnostic and had a recent ex who was catholic, we were able to discuss religion without getting angered, and able to understand eachothers point of view. Neither of us ever expected the other to "convert"... although I have no religion anyways... but I would never convert to a religion simply because my spouse was of it.
You either need to except that part of him, or you need to find someone else that is of your same religion.
2007-02-26 05:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by static_nerdling 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Wiccans aren't the ridiculing type, hon. They normally get the ridicule from christians.
The best thing to do is just tell him that you have a problem with his faith, and let him decide what he wants to do. Most likely, he's heard about or already practiced your faith and chosen a different path. While he could accept yours (Wiccans believe that there are no wrong spiritual paths), it's obvious you can't accept his.
Be honest, forthright and tell it like you see it.
That's the only way to be in any relationship.
Best wishes,
Kallan
2007-02-26 05:13:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kallan 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you are not willing to accept him unconditionally (like it sounds like you want him to accept you, and convert to your religion) then it will never work out.
I'm sure he already knows what your bible says about other gods, and he probably doesn't need to hear it again.
I'm not trying to be rude, but I've been in this situation with an ex of mine. Our religions (or lack of religion on my end) ended up causing ALOT of tension between us and did partly cause our break up. You need to understand that he is who he is, and being Wiccan is part of who he is, and part of the reason he is how he is.
It comes down to this, you either need to be respectful of what he believes or you don't, but it probably won't work out if you can't accept that part of his life.
2007-02-26 05:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by photogrl262000 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you've already made a decision. Don't date the guy, don't have a relationship that will go against your beliefs. Just be his friend. Don't try to convert him, either. If he is open to discussing religion, then talk, but don't make conversion your utmost goal.
2007-02-26 05:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by Cosmic I 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can only ask someone to do something to do something that you are willing to do, and if you just want to date is it really worth converting? but if it bothers you that much there really isn't much chance for a future, because you will always wonder did he convert just for me? does he really believe it? does he think he was wrong? and all those other questions... and if he does and you break up there could be guilt involved... he gave up his religion.. and whatnot
2007-02-26 05:13:47 · answer #10 · answered by lostthoughts27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋