I'm 17 and my family has treated me like an adult for about four years. I do bills, babysit, get other jobs to help out, keep the house clean and I have been very mature for a long time. But now I have my first boyfriend and the rest of the world looks at my mother and says she's not doing her job to keep me from dating an older guy. My mother trusts me because of the way I am but it's not right for ppl to say things to her. Is there any way to get out on my own so people have no right to accuse my mother of anything? That way every decision I make is on me and not her.
2007-02-26 04:55:10 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How much older? Be careful. If he's a lot older, ask yourself why he's not dating women his own age and be honest with yourself.
As for your actions reflecting on your mom. Well, there's not much you can do about that. Most cultures judge parents by how their kids turn out and act. So if someone feels you are acting improperly, most likely their judgement will fall on your mother as well. The only thing that will lessen the comparison will be time and you growing older. Sorry!
2007-02-26 05:00:16 · answer #1 · answered by Raising6Ducklings! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hate to admit it but right now they are accusing your mom or "bad parenting" because you are dating an older guy, imagine what they will accuse her of if you move out on your own?!?! If your mother is not bothered by what the lifeless people are gossiping about this month, you should not let it bother you either. If you mother is agreeing with them, then perhaps you should sit back and think about what it is they are saying. My bf is 10 years older than I am, my sister's is 16 yrs older than her and I know several others that date older men, Age is nothing but a number it is on in how old you feel and if you connect with that person. Life is hard enough without worrying about what other people say, as long as your family is good with it, don't rock the boat and make life more difficult.
2007-02-26 14:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by tmjgmw 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not yet. As much responsible as you can be you´re still 17 , you´re very, VERY, young. Many people assume responsabilities at home since they´re young and it is actually good, when not exagerated, of course.
is good that your mother trusts you but she´s still responsible for you and this is something you should repect. The fact that other people (I don´t know who they are, if is family or friends) are giving opinions about her way of taking care of you is something that only she can stop and regulate. because you now have a boyfriend it doesn´t mean you can now take all decisions alone, soon you´ll do it, very soon, but by now talk to your mother and try to find an agreement in a way that you can live your relationship with your boyfriend , I think she´ll find a solution for you and a way to shut up these people that should only care about their own lives . I´m sure you both can find a way.
2007-02-26 13:35:07 · answer #3 · answered by Juliana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every decision you make is on you. You only have one year to go before you are legally an adult. Is that really so long to wait? Your mother trusts you and isn't listening to these people and after awhile they will back off. They are probably making a big deal out of this because it's new and they don't agree. As time goes by someone else will capture their attention and they will leave you and your mother alone. Just ignore them because they are not worth disrupting your life over.
2007-02-26 13:00:15 · answer #4 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can get emancipated.
My advice is to stick it out. A year or less will be over sooner than you think, and you can get your own apartment. You might make her feel worse if you just decide to move out right away.
Who cares what people think? It is your life. You are responsible enough to live it as you choose. Maturity does not always come with age, it comes with the spirit. If you know what you like in a guy, ignore those people. Your mother sounds great! she knows what's best for you, is what you think is best.
Don't sweat the small stuff.
2007-02-26 13:17:08 · answer #5 · answered by Rachael T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are going to say things because they have nothing better to do. If your mother trusts you with this, it's because she has good reason to. Let others say what they want because this isn't their family, this isn't their relationship, and they most likely don't know alot about everything that's going on from the inside. Getting out on your own doesn't stop what people will say, because most likely, it will only get worse. Stand by your mom. Trust yourself.
2007-02-26 13:08:37 · answer #6 · answered by Meredith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just continue to ignore them and move on with your life!
2007-02-26 14:59:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r free for what u want and what u do ... people always talk they never shut up...ignore them totally and live ur life
2007-02-26 16:25:42 · answer #8 · answered by enasshalaan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋