I have a 14 yr old son who takes from me w/out asking,talks back to his mother always,treats family like crap and still thinks he never does anything wrong. Sometimes I get SOOOO fed up.I'm one of those alpha type males also,so this just keeps me boiling!!!I have 2 other boys that act just fine all 3 were raised in the same house.Any advice on how to correct some issues would be very helpful.Is anybody else going through this right now??
2007-02-26 04:54:59 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
just relax... he is a teen, you can only make things worse if you don't try to be more nice with him... alpha males are boring in their rigidity, btw
2007-02-26 05:17:37 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Pavic♫ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is normal. I'm sure you went through it. It is also positive to remember how it felt to be 14.
I was like a brat at 14. But when my parents got furious, it just fueled my defiance even more. Don't get so stressed about it. He is trying to affect you. Not showing that anger to him can be a peaceful and productive way to deal with him. Let him know that you understand him.
When he says "f**k you, dad!" Say, "Okay, son". Not reacting in an angry way is a good way to show him that yelling will not get him attention and it calms down the household. It is a less traumatizing way to live, because believe me, what he goes through now will shape his adult self.
You only have a few years to teach your kids, you have 4. Savor that time, and make some happy memories.
2007-02-26 13:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by Rachael T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can only pass along the same wisdom to you that my Dad gave to me years ago. Each child is different. What works for one, won't always work for the other. Comparing him to the others, only causes him to rebel, and just show you how different he really is. Learn your son. Concentrate on his, likes and dislikes and be aware of what makes him tick.
One thing that I realized with my daughter at that age, was that....negative responses, beat none. The challenge doesn't stop. For your own sanity, try some one on one with him.
2007-02-26 13:37:31 · answer #3 · answered by kayboff 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
U got to lay down some ground rules and hide stuff or lock them up that u dont want taken.
U need to discipline him by taking the TV completely away or out of the house til they obey the rules.
Dont let teenagers get over on u or they will grow up to be criminals .Discipline your children if u love them.
2007-02-26 13:28:04 · answer #4 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what makes you think teen alone do it,parents do it all the time,no matter what kids do parents think it's wrong,if a kid is trying to earn your trust you just won't let him,by the way, nice avatar mr angryman.
2007-02-26 15:10:20 · answer #5 · answered by NONAME 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋