I've been seeing this woman for almost 2 months now, and she's looking at the relationship as if we've been together for years now. I'm not ready for something long term right now. How do I let her know that I like her, but I'm not ready to call her my one and only?
2007-02-26 04:20:47 · 18 answers · asked by King Matthew 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to say it just like you told it to us.
"I'm really enjoying being with you and getting to know you better, but I'm not sure that we are meant to be 'forever' and the way your talking it seems that you are more ready for commitment than I am. We don't have to stop seeing each other, but I want you to know where I stand so you don't get hurt."
That should be direct enough, but also kind. But, dude, DO NOT mention seeing toher women yet. This should be enough to let her know that this isn't the answer she's been looking for and she might draw back giving you more options. Just play it cool initially and feel out how she will react. You don't want to go sticking your head into a snake pit....be cautious.
Good Luck in whatever course of action you decide to take....it's a slippery slope you are walking.
God Bless!
2007-02-26 04:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by brookebjpl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy, just sit her down and let her know that things are moving too fast for you and you don't want to break her heart, but you feel you both need space... Say that the lord have a plan for you and you want to do what is right, and if it is meant for you both then you will find a way to make it happen. But just know that you have much love for her and pray that everything works out for her and most of all you both can remain friends if nothing else.
2007-02-26 12:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by ressie re 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be up front and honest. Card and flowers. That way she has it in writing and something to soften the blow. No beating around the bush, just get right to the point. Make sure that the end of the note points out all her good qualities so she knows you're not trashing her.
2007-02-26 12:23:59 · answer #3 · answered by fesspoint 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her. Tell her you've enjoyed the time you've spent together, but you'd like to keep it more casual right now and aren't quite ready for the 'next step' just yet. Tell her you want to learn more about her, and that you appreciate her independence and yours.
2007-02-26 12:28:13 · answer #4 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her just that and you aren't ready for a fully commited relationship yet. If you sugar coat it, she might not believe you. If you decide to be together later, she will respect your honesty and your confidence in her to handle it in a mature way.
2007-02-26 12:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by Kelsey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down in a quiet environment, like your house, and get you both a glass of water ( to make yourself comfortable ), and then say something like "i really value our relationship, and i want you to know that I also appreciate you. I love that you ____, and that ____. Your __(smile)__ is beautiful, and ____. *pause* I want you to know that being in a relationship with you is great, but that I feel that we are moving too fast *explanation* ."
2007-02-26 12:29:55 · answer #6 · answered by in_my_mind2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is the best policy, just gotta tell the truth. If she can't get beyond that then maybe it's not meant to be, if shes willing to be cool then maybe it is.
2007-02-26 12:23:16 · answer #7 · answered by Phillip P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her about the way you fell about the relationship.
2007-02-26 12:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her!! plain and simple that you feel she is galloping ahead and leaving you at the last hurdle
2007-02-26 12:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell her how u trully feel but not in the phone lol .
2007-02-26 12:24:23 · answer #10 · answered by mzmarie2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋