My husband's great uncle passed away yesterday. We have not seen him in the seven or eight years we have been together. The funeral is a two hour drive away and I have an nine month old baby. I really do not want to go! Would this be that bad?
2007-02-26 04:18:23 · 18 answers · asked by Laura H 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I think it would be fine for you not to attend because the deceased is a distant relative and attending the funeral would pose a hardship on your family. Make sure you send a memorial bouquet though to let the family know they're in your thoughts.
2007-02-26 04:28:10 · answer #1 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Nine months is old enough that you could leave the baby with a sitter, so to some family members that may not be enough of a reason. However, the fact that you had never met the man kind of evens that out. His family may not realize that you had never met him though. I think it would be best to just go and pay your respects. That shows respect for his family, even if you didn't know the great uncle. It also shows support for your husband.
If your child was 3 or 4 months old or younger, I would say that would excuse you, but not a nine month old.
2007-02-26 12:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Although you and your husband were not close to him recently, it's the ones that were who would appreciate your being there. If your child is the fussy type, then I wouldn't take the child, that can be a real annoyance for people that are already stressed from the death. It would say alot about you and your husbands character if you should decide to go in spite of the inconvenience.
2007-02-26 12:29:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not unreasonable to skip a funeral if it presents a hardship. Send flowers and a condolence card along with your regrets for not attending. Happens all the time.
2007-02-26 12:31:33 · answer #4 · answered by douglas l 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it would not be horrible. It would be good to show respects, but if you cannot make it (having a small child is a reasonable "excuse"), then it's not horrible. Sending flowers, cards, etc. to the immediate family would be required, though.
2007-02-26 12:27:49 · answer #5 · answered by Jay 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it would not be bad at all. Have your husband go and you stay put with the baby. It's his uncle after all and you have never met him.
2007-02-26 12:27:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should go but you don't have to. You have an out because of the baby.
2007-02-26 12:57:58 · answer #7 · answered by Alison 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really can not attend then you should send flowers and a symphathy card. It is better to attend but at least acknowledge the family's loss.
2007-02-26 12:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by unknown2u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Send a nice card or bouquet of flowers and explain that it would be a hardship to bring the baby to anyone who asks and if they do not understand then thats their problem , not yours. try not to stress on it
2007-02-26 12:28:26 · answer #9 · answered by wyntur1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't really think so. Let him take care of that. It's his uncle, not yours, and if he hasn't seen him in over 7 years, it's probably because they were not that close, anyway.
2007-02-26 12:28:05 · answer #10 · answered by gaban24 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋