I am told I am hot by guys, but I am smart and funny too! Every time I find a guy I really like, it seems they only want one thing...am I giving off some kind of vibe? I am starting to lose hope that I will ever find someone...HELP!
2007-02-26 04:16:48 · 11 answers · asked by landime9 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you aren't working the push-and-pull games of romance. (I'm guessing you seek out a good man, and then give everything to him without a fight. You don't let many in the door, but if they get that far, they're in!) Since you'd like to be honest, it may come as a disappointment that these games are so important to building attraction that goes further than skin deep.
Even if you meet someone who is amazing and you want him to father your children, you have to make him work for sex. You can accelerate the process, but you must have a reason to like him apart from his looks, and he has to know it. Also, you need him to like you for a good reason, and he has to let you know why. Don't give up sex until these conditions are met, no matter how bad you want it. If you do, you'll never be anything but a body to him. Make him earn you, and at the same time, you should have to earn him. Any other way and you won't respect each other.
2007-02-26 04:26:17 · answer #1 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hate to tell you this but it is difficult to find one that really is interested in getting to know you before things get physical. Now, that being said, there actually are men out there that do care about finding someone special and getting emotionally involved. They are few and far between but if you keep your options open you will eventually meet one. I met one a few weeks ago after pretty much giving up hope - so stop looking and just be open minded.
2007-02-26 04:23:31 · answer #2 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are looking in the wrong direction. Look at a different type of guy. Most guys want sex but there are a few Good ones out there who will respect you. Good luck.
2007-02-26 04:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by just me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People can only treat you the way that you allow them to. You say what and when and how; and if they seem to be after you for one reason alone, perhaps your multi-faceted view of yourself isn't as clear as you might think. Talk to a professional and see what they tell you...at the very worst, you'll only waste $50, at best you'll learn the truth!
2007-02-26 04:28:28 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you a social butterfly? If so, that's why. Personally if I see girl being extremely friendly and chat with everybody, I usually assume she sleep around and move on.
How do those relate to your question? Well think about this, if you see a guy talk with every girls he pass, he is always around girl, he never seems aloof in any way, and he seems to go along with the crowd, what would you assume?
2007-02-26 04:27:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you have to make it very clear to the guys that you are only interested in a relationship & not just sex. Reserve sex for until the 3rd date (but don't tell them you're ready), see if any guy can stand that - if he can, then he's the guy for you.
good luck
2007-02-26 04:30:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey it could be worse. You could not be getting any guys. Look at the bright side. You will find someone compatible it is just not easy. Patience.
2007-02-26 04:21:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe we should hook up. I always find the girls that just wanna have sex. I'm always told I'm good looking and would be a good catch, but end up getting f**ked over.
2007-02-26 04:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by whatever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say that you are against premarital sex and you like guys that think you're smart and funny.
2007-02-27 09:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by matthew 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell them right upfront that you aren't into sex before marriage. See who sticks around.
2007-02-26 04:21:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋