My son is 4 and he still has "accidents" several times a week. We have tried rewarding him when he uses the toilet, letting him pick out his new underwear, letting him choose a potty chair, and punishing him when he goes in his pants. His preschool has even told us he will not be allowed back into class if he doesn't improve. He is a very smart boy (knows his numbers, letters colors, shapes, etc) who does very well in school and has lots of friends, but I am starting to wonder if something is wrong with him. He is the 3rd child I have potty trained, but I have never had this much trouble. Please help!!!
2007-02-26 04:14:57 · 4 answers · asked by salem407 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My daughter is also 4 and we have tried EVERYTHING - even a class called Bootie Camp. Lots of things have helped, but we are still struggling sometimes - it goes in phases. The last straw for me was to just put it in her hands completely. I told her she is responsible for her potty. My husband and I explained that we don't tell each other when to go, so we won't tell her when to go. So accidents have no consequence, other than she has to do all the clean up on her own. It got worse at first, but it has finally gotten better. I wish there was a more magic answer - we really struggled. I do make her go at 'scheduled' times like before we leave the house, before bed, and first thing in the morning. Of course I do verbally praise good behavior the key is not to let them detect your disappointment or angry when they have 'accidents'. Good Luck!
2007-02-26 04:39:27 · answer #1 · answered by Darlene S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you been to your dr lately. I would first of all rule out any medical problems. He's old enough to understand. Try one day of every hour putting him on the toilet on the hour every hour. Then after a day or two tell him that if he continues to go in his pants that you'll continue this method. Have you tried putting a diaper back on him. Not a pull up, a real diaper. Tell him he'll have to go for naps again cause he's doing what babies doing by not going on the toilet. Try another reward system where if he goes so many times he gets a surprize. Each time he goes he gets a sticker on the chart (that youll make together). Have a special pizza night or movie night if he goes all week without an accident at school.
Good luck
2007-02-26 12:44:09 · answer #2 · answered by Allie D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has a doctor checked to make sure there is nothing medicially wrong? If they have said he's ok medicially, you need to keep reminding him he won't be allowed back in school with his friends if he doesn't let someone know when he has to potty. Some of it could be he just gets busy and doesn't want to stop. I know with my older daughter that was the reason for her accidents. Punishing him will just make things worse. Let him know you are disappointed when he goes in his pants, but don't go any further with it. I did all this with my daughter. I had a caretaker punishing her and she just got worse about it. IT's a control issue for them. They have to feel they are in control. It does take time and patience but I promise it gets better. I have 3 children total and my older daughter was the one that drove me nuts.
2007-02-26 13:15:44 · answer #3 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have the same problem with my 3 year old brother. He wears diapers and every so often he wears underwear. One method my mom suggested is to get these special plastic underwear that makes it VERY uncomfortable to go in his pants, so that will probably work, you might wanna try that.
2007-02-26 12:42:34 · answer #4 · answered by maxmassacre 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋