I have a sibling that I feel needs an intervention. However whenever we try to confront this person about their behavior they will become very upset and will storm off. They are very emotional and always feel they are the victim and never at fault for any of their actions. How should we proceed? Suggestions? Their behavior is causing much concern to family. Thanks.
2007-02-26 04:08:56 · 8 answers · asked by Steve P 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Let them learn the hard way. If they do something and try to blame someone else, tell them you're not falling for that excuse, they got themselves in mess and they can get themselves out of it.
2007-02-26 04:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am confused, first you spoke as it was your idea to do an intervention, then I got the impression that it was the hole family that has a problem with the situation - so I will answer according to what I think you said.
If your sibling is an adult it is that adults choice to live as they wish - you can (and your family ) only suggest they do what you feel is best.
If your sibling is a minor,you should not be responsible for the intervention,only state your wishes and make yourself available to talk should the need arise.Your parents on the other hand are the ones who can call the shots,and by law, are to some extent,expected too.The question is what is the intervention for? Is it for drugs,cutting class,stealing ....killing someone,habitual lies? what? obviously you would not do the same thing for lies as you would for killing someone....so If your parents can not Handel the situation (not uncommon) it is best they consult the appropriate authorities - school, counselor, police and see what they can do to help......because they consult the authorities dose not mean there will be steps taken to remove your sibling,it means they see the problem and need guidance. It is a good thing that the family is concerned and that you are too, I hope all will go well.
2007-02-26 12:43:02 · answer #2 · answered by Liz H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all rule out what might be causing this persons behavior- Drugs, Alcohol, Personal Tragedy, etc. You will need a mediator or a professional to keep the situation healthy and open. You don't want the family member to feel that everyone is "ganging" up on them....they will not listen or participate. Please be selective with who you want in this intervention. Only allow people who really love and care for this person and want to see and will help with the changes everyone will need to make. Do not let this intervention become a "it's all your fault" "pointing fingers" meeting. Everyone will need to look at the part they play in the behavior of this person. All participants must be willing to take responsibility for their behavior also. Everyone must be all on the same page. Once all is agreed and you can find a outside professional that has no emotional ties, then proceed. Good Luck and please do this with LOVE, & first thought in why you care about this persons behavior.
2007-02-26 12:34:00 · answer #3 · answered by kymmy_kins 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you tell this person that a simple hormone problem coudl be at fault, not them.
I didn't know how sick I was, physically, and almost refused to get help.
Did I feel stupid when i found out!
And very VERY glad that I went to the right doctor- the psychiatrist.
They know the blood tests to take and the physical illnesses to watch out for, that counselors don't.
This is the only kind of help I would trust, basedon four experiences.
And, it is also the most face-saving way to begin to get help!
2007-02-26 12:18:39 · answer #4 · answered by starryeyed 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
http://nationalinterventionreferral.org/
get professional help...sometimes family members need help to get it done in a way that is not threatening to the person.
2007-02-26 12:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by the beet 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get the whole family together, then work on it.......
2007-02-26 12:11:59 · answer #6 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need a professional...
this isnt easy and they WILL resist...
2007-02-26 12:17:54 · answer #7 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
GET SOME COUNCELING FOR THEM
2007-02-26 12:17:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋