I told my boyfriend's 21 year old son that I loved him and he said "thank you".
2007-02-26 04:07:37 · 15 answers · asked by just me 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Definitely progress. He probably wasn't expecting it and didn't know how to respond. If he didn't care about your feelings he could really have been rude or rejected you. I think things must be going well. (-:
2007-02-26 04:20:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
It's not a slap in the face, maybe he isn't ready to say I love you back because he doesnt love you. You don't want him to say it just because you said it, do you?
My mother in law said she loved me WAY before I felt any caring for her...nothing you can do but keep up the relationship and maybe something eventually will grow. I still don't feel major love for the inlaws, not the same as my parents,or my kids anyways, and probably never will. I think there are different degrees of love and caring. Don't feel it is a slap in the face, loving someone should be unconditional and without feeling it has to be reciprocated.
2007-02-26 12:28:51 · answer #2 · answered by Freebird 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
progress, the fact that he didn't just say good for you or laugh is a good thing. Its very hard to even get a 21 year old to say thank you period, even more so cuz hes a guy. He'll learn to say i love you too, but at this point he may feel like he'd be betraying his mother as well.
2007-02-26 12:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just because you tell someone you love them, you shouldnt expect a "love you" back. And that is what it seems like you were expecting. A 21yr old isnt keen on telling dad's girlfriends they love them too. I dont know the history behind this but he might not ever tell you he loves you if he has a Mum around. He might feel he betrays his Mum if he does that. I wouldnt tell him you love him anymore. I dont think he is ready for that yet and it might make him feel uncomfortable around you. You can tell him you care about him and to take care and be carefull and all those good things. Just keep the I love you's to your boyfriend for now.
2007-02-26 12:30:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mum to 2 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's progress. I think it's hard for boys (and I'm old enough to consider a 21-year-old a boy!!!) to say "I love you" to parents. When I tell my 16-year-old son, he usually says "okay" or when he's in a good mood, "ditto".
2007-02-26 12:16:08 · answer #5 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he was uncomfortable but didn't want to be rude. I think (without knowing backstory) that it is progress. Afterall, baby steps are still steps! I think you should talk to him, ask him if you made him feel uneasy. Then tell him that you love him anyway!
2007-02-26 13:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Klara♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is good as long as you mean it and follow it up with actions (speak louder than words) but I wouldn't do it often as at that age they think they are really grown up and don't need that kind of response from parents. He sounds like a polite and nice young man so communicating is good.
2007-02-26 12:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by njss 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he likes you then he may mean it. That is how genuine you meant to be towards him. Its hard to love someone just like that especially your boyfriends son. If you were tacky then he might have been sarcastic. If you meant it from your heart then he might have meant it. Only you can know it yourself.
2007-02-26 12:43:58 · answer #8 · answered by MafiaGal 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Progress - he could have laughed and he didn't. Don't pressure him into saying it back. You're doing the right thing by telling him.
2007-02-26 12:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by mel m 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its definatly progress. he apriciated that you said it but just may not feel ready to say it back to you yet give it time.
2007-02-26 12:10:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋