♥ What do you expect from a 13 year old boy? Please help!?

Question

My boyfriend is 13 and I am 12. We have been together for 3 months and 5 days. I know you ((adults)) will say ohh hunn you are too young. Well If you are going to say that then dont answer. Ok anyways, my boyfriend tells me he loves me and treats me soo good at school, but he NEVER calls me. I had surgery on my ankle a few days ago and I have been out of school for days. My friends have told everyone why I am not at school and have even told him "dude you should check on your gf. She had surgery..." And he still hasnt called me. I know his dad lets him talk on the phone with girls b/c I have called him plenty of times. I just feel like he doesn't care. I call him but he has NEVER called me. Im serious. Not even once. I don't know. Is this like ok for a 13 year old or should he care more? I have had other bfs and THEY cared. But I dont know. Is this OK for him not to care as much as I think he should and what should I do? ♥

Thanks Yall.

Answer 1

Okay, first off, don't listen to Neha. At 12, you should be freaked out if an 18 year old wanted to date you.

As for your boyfriend, it sounds like he isn't as serious about the relationship as you are. He could be just nervous, or worried that he wouldn't have anything to say to you, but since you said that you've already talked on the phone with him plenty of other times, I don't think that's what's going on.

Girls mature faster than boys, so a 13 year old guy is still really immature, and usually not interested in serious relationships.

If I were you, I think that I wouldn't call him, at least while you are recovering from surgury, and then see what he does and says to you when you get back to school. Don't talk to him first, make him come to you. He might have a good excuse, but if he just acts like it was nothing, it might be time for you to stop seeing him.

Good luck, and I hope your ankle gets better quick!

Answer 2

Ok chicadee, i am an adult (25, not that much of an adult) and i do want to say that you are too young but i am going to give you some real advice. He is 13 and the extent of what he cares about goes as far as video games, sports and how far he can get with a girl. No matter how sweet he is to you at school there is one thing one his mind which is perfectly normal for a 13 year old boy and that is how far he can get his hand up your shirt. You are too young to be so worried about a boy. I know your feelings are real but the older you get the more you will realize how much time and energy you have waisted on boys. If he doesn't call you, then don't call him. He is 13 and the last thing on his mind is checking in with his girfriend. I would not even be surprised if he got a new girlfriend while you were out of school, that is just how middle school love works. The best thing for you to do is to not call him, don't talk to him when you go back to school and just hang with your friends. Make them come to you, don't make yourself so available to get your heart broken. The more you call him the more he wants to get away from you. Not because he does not like you but his small little 13 year old brain can not think about serious relationships. Girls are way more mature than guys and always reach the love stage way longer then them and you will face this the rest of your life. The faster you learn to be your own person, independent, confident and let the boys come to you the better off you will be.

Answer 3

Hi - I remember being your age like it was literally yesterday. What to expect from a 13 year old boy - well, from your average 13 year old boy, your expectation is normal. Any person raised with home training knows that they should call and check in on/visit close friends and family when they are sick or recovering. You would fall in the close friend/sweetie category - there is no excuse for him not calling you. Maturity has nothing to do with it....common courtesy is learned at an early age...he should be even more eager to exercise this common courtesy due to the fact that you are dating/close. Call him and find out what his deal is...however, be nice about it. ;) Determine your course of action from his response - I get the feeling that his interest may be waning...then again he could be scared to call....it would be best to ask him what's up.

Answer 4

When I was 16 I was with this guy for a year that I was like soo in love with and no matter what I did to try and make him feel the same he just wasn't like ready or mature enough. You gotta give him time and maybe that means not being with with like in actual relationship. I ended up ending with this guy cause I couldn't handle feeling like he didn't care. I knew it was that he just wasn't mature enough, but it still began to really get to me and make me feel like I was doing something wrong. You gotta realize that also you are 12 and maybe this guy will get away, but you have a loooong time to find someone to spend your life with. Don't push it. I know you don't wanna hear this and I know it's not that important to you what I'm saying, but just enjoy life and be young it doesn't last forever. I hope it turns out good for you. <3

Answer 5

Hey Sweetie, from what my (just turned) 13 yr. old daughter says, some boys "know how to be bfs and some don't." (The obvious, huh?) It sounds like yours has other interests (sports, maybe?) It's no fault of yours! As for calling, i wouldn't call him if he isn't calling you. Altho they are pretty immature, i think some boys at 13 are interested in learning how to be a good bf. I wouldn't waste your time on the others.

Answer 6

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Answer 7

I think at the ages you are, boys really aren't that into relationships with girls. They may say they are your boyfriend, but when it really comes down to it, they have no clue. (trust me, they still dont' as adults!) You could call him, hon- the phone works both ways.
If you call him and he blows you off, then move on.

Answer 8

13 yr. olds', especially boys, aren't mature enough to deal with relationships. I'm going to say it no matter what; Wait till you're older to date. Don't try to grow up so fast, cause you'll miss out on alot of things if you two end up thinking you love eachother, have sex, and if you get pregnant, you're screwed.

Answer 9

he's only 13 and doesn't know how relationships work. you can't have high expectations with a 13yr old

Answer 10

dont expect so much from a 13 yr old boy. he' sso immature and still growing in a few years he'll prbly call. date older than that if u are looking/ready for a real relationshp. try 18 yr olds