Me and my girlfriend have been dating for 9 months, and recently she has brought up a problem that has been bothering her. She says that I take up alot of her time and she feels like she can't hang out with her friends because like when i come home (im at college and shes at high school) she feels she NEEDS to hang out with me and has to cancel plans with her friends. She thinks that she is not herself around me because she doesnt want me to judge her and when shes with her friends shes herself.
We were trying to decide what to do, and it came down to staying together and like toning it down or going on a break but not dating other people.
Its a very complicated question with no easy solution. Help?
2007-02-26 03:52:45 · 21 answers · asked by Jamie Taliaferro 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Find a college girl whos willing to be with you.
2007-02-26 03:58:42 · answer #1 · answered by 520 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well 1) she should be hanging out with friends while you are at school 2) When you are home a large portion of time should be to you since you have been away.
Sound slike she is not that into this relationship. I would say you should take a break or break up and see how that goes. In either case I see no reason NOT to date while on break/broken up.
2007-02-26 04:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in college and she feels like she needs to break her plans with her friends just to see you that's not very nice of her! she sees her friends everyday because she is in high school and she cant spend time with you when you come down for the weekend. i think it was a good idea staying together but she shouldn't feel bad for breaking up plans she should be happy for seeing her sweetheart!
2007-02-26 04:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to figure out how you feel for this woman....but its not a good sign if she says she doesnt feel like she can be herself around you....if she really wants to be with you then she would be able to be herself and do what makes her happy around you....i think maybe you need to take a break and still see each other when you come home....but when your not home then let her be a hs girl. let her hang out with her friends, and have you ever tried hanging out with her friends and doing the things that she likes to do. that might actually help her loosen up a little bit and help her be herself around you...it kills 2 birds with one stone.
2007-02-26 04:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by ♥Ashley♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It actually isn't that complicated........she is not ready for a serious relationship yet. An even bigger problem is her saying she can't act like herself in front of u. That means that u will be developing feelings for someone that doesn't truely exist. She is still young, u need to just let her go and live her life until she is ready for a relationship like that.
2007-02-26 04:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by Amber 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all she should feel comfortable with you now, its def. not a good sign that she does not. Yes, she needs her friends no matter what..nothing should stop her from seeing her friends. But she should not be afraid that you will judge her...it doesnt look so good for you two. But, relationships take alot of work and getting to know each others differences and things like that. Good luck to you
2007-02-26 03:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship is all about compromise and understanding. Both of you need to come up with a plan as to how to spend your time together. Perhaps, when she is out with her friends, you can either join her or do something on your own or go out with your friends. Both of you need to realize that you are still in a relationship and trust is very important. Talk to her to figure out what she wants to do with her friends. You may find it interesting to join them.
2007-02-26 04:02:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kimora Miranda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:14:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up a time table for what you have that is set-time, and time that is not booked ( both of you do this ), then afterwards, compare schedules and make days and itmes that you will spend together per week.
I had to do this with my boyfriend and it worked out very well.
This way there is no "i felt like i had to see you; i ditched my friends."
2007-02-26 04:03:47 · answer #9 · answered by in_my_mind2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in college and she is in high school, you are both doing each other a grave disservice by trying to stay together. Both of you are way too young for this kind of a relationship.
2007-02-26 03:57:13 · answer #10 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋