every time we get together she seams to have some kind of an attitude towards me. i know that i have messed up in the past but i have worked very hard to make it right and i try not to mess up anymore. why do i make her so mad even when i do nothing wrong. she allways says that she loves me and i know that i cant live without her. how do we overcome this hardship.
2007-02-26 03:51:13 · 13 answers · asked by get er done 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It takes a long time for the trust to build up again but all you can do is patience and show her you want to be with her. Being mad at you when you see each other is the way shes showing you shes hurt and mad. Face it you messed up things so hang in there and don't do it again.
2007-02-26 03:56:45 · answer #1 · answered by D'oh! 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know exactly what you are going through buddy i was in that kind of relationship for over three years.She has trust issues and uses this kind of "anger" to control her environment. People like her like making people think she is mad that her way of putting up a wall and protecting herself from being hurt ..she has probably in the past been abused or treated badly ..She will never change unless she gets help for her issues..my suggestion to you is to talk to her about couples councilling if she doesn't want to do that then you only other choice is to walk away ..it's going to be hard at first believe me..it was the hardest thing i've had to do because i loved her very much..but in no time at all i found a wonderfull woman with who i have much more in common with and we are best friends ..and that's the bottom line your partner in life should be your best friend..you should trust each other and respect each others space and feelings..
2007-02-26 12:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by rcbrokebones 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me like she is holding your past mistakes over your head so that she can have an attitude. if i were you i would sit down with her and have a heart to heart and ask her to tell you what her issues are. then you repeat back what you have heard so that you can be sure that you are listening well. then you two communicate and solve things together. that way you will be wiping teh slate clean so to speak and give some new life into your relationship. relationships take lots of hard work to keep going. so since women tend to get more emoitional and think with their hearts and men are just straight to the point,. you may have to take a detour so that you two can get back on the same page. right now she is on page 54 and you are on page 30. you gotta catch up. speak calmy, but firmly. dont get rattled start off your communication by thinking positive. good luck
peace and blessigns
2007-02-26 12:01:21 · answer #3 · answered by PhatBeatz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop pissing her off! women are very sensitive and fragile.... so if you even come close to cracking that soft outer shell..... we want to beat you with a stupid stick cuz you don't know what you did wrong. Its part of being a man....a flaw if you will. Not to mention women PMS and things like that. If our day at work or traffic ruined our day.... better believe you're the one she's gonna take it out on. So just relax, and support and love her.
Open, direct, SPECIFIC communication is the best solution! you don't know what's wrong, she's mad cuz you can't figure it out, So talk! I'm sure she will openly tell you what you need to know to make it right. She'll probably tell you too much and you'll wish she would just shut up. LOL!
So dont be scared to talk to your woman! If you love her like you say you do.... then it's worth the effort.
2007-02-26 12:04:33 · answer #4 · answered by Kimber Gem 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A mark is a mark forever. It can be fixed but with scar. But you said, you're trying to be good in her eyes but still she still mad at you. Why not ask her frankly? and give a solution to your problem? Talk to her intimately but with a loving feeling and brought up what you want it to say or ask. Don't be shy and think positively. You love her so much? If positive, then go on and make up the pieces that you made. You said, she loves you? Are you sure? or you are expecting only that she will say that to you....but you...are not saying that to her?
Finding a way to erase your hardship means to find a way to love her more and show to her that ...she's the only one that you ....LOVE.
2007-02-26 12:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by FX777222999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to talk to her about it? Sometimes it is easier to stray mad and hang on to the anger so you don't let your guard down. She may be afraid to let you back in like before the mess up for her fear maybe keeping her from letting go of it. Just letting it go doesn't help. She says she loves you and she is probably telling you the truth but she is hanging on to something to protect herself in fear of hurt again. Only talking things out and usually more than one conversation about these things will help reassure her. We like to be reassured now and then. It will take time.
2007-02-26 12:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by angelicwysper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only one way...talk more.
you may not be able to overcome the problem alone
try consiling if you cannot work through it on your own.
And how you messed up in pass leaves a big void in trying to reply to your question. what did you do leave your underwear on the floor? or maybe you had affairs with her sister...kinda makes a differrence huh?....Lets
2007-02-26 11:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by letsget_dangerous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why you like the drama in your relationship. If you want to change things talk it out! Get to bottom of both of your needs to have drama.
2007-02-26 11:58:06 · answer #8 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically you ****** up now be a big mature boy loose your ego and apologize..there thats not so hard is it
2007-02-26 12:01:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gee why do you think woman are called the b word ??
2007-02-26 11:59:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋