I found some photos....what do i do now?...?

Question

My boyfriend let me stay at his house whilst he went to do some shopping. I was a little hungover so i stayed in bed. Trouble is i was mooching through one of his draws to find some paracetamol, when i came across some pictures (proffessional pics) of a really attractive girl, they weren't rude or anything but i feel hurt...i don't know who she is. We have been together for a a year now. Things are great..well i thought they were.
I just don't understand why he would have them in his chester drawers by his bed. I haven't said anything to him because i'll look like an idiot for going through his stuff, but they must have only been put there recently as i know they weren't in there before.
What shall i do...i thought i trusted him but i'm beginning to have my doubts. Your thoughts would be appreciated.

Answer 1

Some people have been known to keep pictures of ex's. I realise this may not be the "done thing", but it does happen. I understand why you feel the way you do, but there could be a very simple explanation.
Best in the long-run just to ask him. Will save any worry and give you an end to the mistrust or a chance to move on and not waste your time.

Answer 2

dont worry im the love doctor dont let him know that you have seen them they could be a million reasons out there why he keeps them in the draw 3 are one his ex, 2 he useing them to get turned on i dont like that 1 but the other 1 is he,s having an afair but these all could be wrong,
im sure if he let you stay he knew they were in the draw guys are like that to make someone jeulous.or was they somewere where he hid them and you were really looking for proof brcause you dont trust him and use the paracetamal as an excuse, il give you a clue what to do next time you stay just put some stuff in the draw ie jewlery, anything then ask him this way if he has a worried face then you know
hope this helps

Answer 3

I think we have all been in a situation similiar to that.....In my case, once you break your trust with me....it's never the same. If I were you, I would ask him about the pictures.....nevermind him worrying about you snooping......they shouldn't have been in there in the first place.....if he weren't trying to hard anything then why stuff them in the drawer instead of laying them out in the open.....the more you prolong, the worse you'll feel and the more hostile your relationship will become.....don't hold stress in...you can even ask him in a nice way like "Honey I was looking for a shirt or some socks (anything) and I saw these pictures in your drawer".....still give him the benefit of the doubt. Expect the worse but hope for the best.

Answer 4

Before you draw any conclusions, ask him. Cause the longer you wait and the more it bothers you, the more outraged you will be when you finally ask him about it!

It could be a family member. That happened to me once. Saw a picture of a very attractive girl in his wallet, and went ballistic. A couple weeks ago, we were sitting at the family table at her wedding!

So don't draw any more conclusions before you ask him. Tell him what you were looking for. Don't tell him you were snooping. And besides, you were tipsy and hungover some. He should understand. Guys don't take stuff like that as serious as we do.

But be on guard in case it is another woman he cares about.

Hope this helped and wish ya the best! ♥

Answer 5

Well u can't just ignore it, because it will drive u crazy. You have to make up an excuse why u were in the drawer to begin with. You either have to say u were looking for something, or putting something away. Once u do that then u can say i saw a pic of a girl in there........and he will take it from there. Don't make it out like a big deal though, or he will clam up and not want to talk about it at all, because he will feel u are attacking him. Keep calm, and he will feel he can talk to u about it. Good luck.

Answer 6

If you don't talk to him about it. you would find it hard to trust him. You will keep having doubts. You shouldn't feel stupid for going through his draw. Just let know that you wanted some paracetamol and came across those pics. Ask who that is. If you have been together for a year, you should be open enough about things like that. Don't go on, without leting him know how you feel. Keep your eyes on him when he answer, try to see if he is lying or telling you the truth.

Answer 7

You say you were looking for paracetemol and then you said they were not there before - so you had obviously looked before. Are you feeling insecure for any reason? I think you need to ask yourself that question. There could be many reasons, although you have been together for a year - how well do you know him, are you open with each other. I think you should come clean and ask, but be prepared for what he says. If you dont ask you will always suspect the worse and there may be a logical and innocent answer.

Answer 8

Unfortunately you learned that if you look for trouble, you'll often find it. You invaded his privacy and found something that bugs you- get over it. You had no right to poke thru his stuff (and it's a chest of draws, not chester), so if you ask you'll likely only talk yourself right into a hole. Like the previous answerers said, she's probably an ex, and if he's with you a year, that's proof he's committed to you, and perhaps just sentimental.

Answer 9

Buy professional photos of a handsome guy from a photographer (u may need to look in yellow pages) and put the photos in ur handbag and make them look as if they r dropping out from the bag then "accidentally" left the bag on his desk
c how he reacts. If he asks u about the guy in the photos then it's time 4 u to do the same thing.

Answer 10

You must be in a turmoil thinking all sorts and feeling very insecure and sad. Please take a deep breath and say to him " I was looking for a pain killer for my hangover" I wish I looked as good as the girl in the photo that I found instead of paracetamol ? try to be light-hearted, although your not, but it will help you, you have been going out for a year and you have to trust one another, share things
...and you did no harm going in his bedside drawer, after a year I would say that was acceptable, so be brave and honest. Good Luck for your future together.