My ex broke up with me. Then a month ago we were becoming friends again but he was giving me signals he wanted to get back with me again. I made sure that I let him know I just wanted to be friends. At the same time I started liking a guy in a class my ex and I have together and my ex was telling me the guy was not a good guy and I needed to stay away from him. Then my ex stopped even being friends with me. He was even rude for a while until I asked him if he was mad at me. He said "just some stuff I don't want to talk about". Now he's not rude, he just doesn't make any effort to talk and ignores me. Why can't he just be friends?
2007-02-26 03:40:23 · 5 answers · asked by Hope 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Being freinds is a little much to hope for so soon after a break-up. You two will either get back together or you'll argue. Don't worry about being friends--just be friendly. You aren't going to be able to hang out five days a week and not stir up some old feelings. Stay away for a while, but leave on good terms, so when you bump into him in three months or a year you can catch up and maybe be friends then.
Until you both fall for someone else, it will be too hard for you to be around each other. End things friendly--if you try to be friends, you'll wind up dragging things nowhere for a while, and eventually have an ugly final breakup.
2007-02-26 03:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by wayfaroutthere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not so complicated, but it does matter how long you were wth your boyfreind, and why you did split with him. But then at the moment, it does not matter cos' you both have respected it as a freindship, and quietly moved on. But this ex of yours, is not too happy perhaps that you did find someone, and that it is in some way making him jealous. You have to move on, and that is the fact. Him being jealous, or covering his feelings shouldnt be a problem in your life. He was your freind even after breaking up, so why now. While you will feel flattered that he does care for you, due to his jealousy (assuming it is jealousy), you should know one thing that sometimes he may be right too. Ever found out why he thinks this guy may not be good for you ?
Anywayz, it all sounds childish. If he ignores you, what can you do about it, obviously you wouldnt go begging behind him to know why, would you ? Specially considering that he could move on in spite of you both breaking up, and that most of all you are the one who moved on quicker..although iam sure it did hurt. Leave him alone. Move on. Be strong, and be open to everyone in relationships, some stay with you till your 90, some stay with you only till 19 (and i mean all relationships, freindship, romance..whatver). And that is what matters, not someone who left you, or you left or break up mutually with who will decide that....its your own concious, and your priorities in life.
good luck
2007-02-26 12:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by arya 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys tend to try to cover up their feelings when they are hurt, it sounds like he wants to get back with you but you are not interested in that, if so then it will be hard for him to accept and any guy you like he will give you a hard time about or tell you that the other guy in no good or something. eventually he will get over it and be your friend again. good luck.
2007-02-26 11:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by spindizz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two questions:
1.)What would the friendship be based on if he did agree to it, and if there's really no common ground, then...
2.) Why would he want to be your friend?
Lovers don't always make great friends and vice-versa.
2007-02-26 11:54:57 · answer #4 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As selfish as it may seem, he doesn't want anyone else to be with you although he isn't with you anymore, and certainly not someone you both know because that will constantly remind him of it.
2007-02-26 11:46:49 · answer #5 · answered by thingfishy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋