Someone please give me some tips. I am really downa bout my ex and even found out some more information about him over the weekend, pics of him and his baby's mother kissing and hugging and the pictures were dated while we were together, I am so hurt now and i feel like our whole relationship was a lie. I am finding it hard to move on, what should i do?
2007-02-26 03:31:29 · 33 answers · asked by mama 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I can understand your pain Mama, and here's some suggestions:
1. Get to a divorce recovery group as fast as you can. Talk to your pastor or priest, or get counselling elsewhere.
2. Keep up your workout routine - Try to work out every day
3. Groom immaculately
4. Dress nicely
5. Work or Study harder than ever
6. Spend an hour a day at the gym
6. Honor your parents and love your child
7. Help someone every day
8.Go to Church
9.Take group dance lessons
10.SMILE
Good Luck
2007-02-26 03:44:33 · answer #1 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there, with an ex playing me while seeing another man. Moving on will be the best thing you can do miss. It hurts and is difficult, but if a person isn't loyal to you at any point in a relationship, you cannot expect them to change their ways. The funny thing is, that both of my exes who were running around on me cheated on the guy they were cheating with while we were supposed to be together. You are obviously an intelligent and caring young woman, and therefore you will have no trouble finding someone who will treat you better, and who you will love more than the guy who cheated on you.
Your best course of action would be to put away any pictures of the two of you when you were together and do your best not to think about the whole ordeal. You should hang out with your friends and family as they can provide you with support as you are going through this difficult time. It sounds as though you were in a relationship with a bad apple, but fret not, it happens to nearly everyone.
Things will only get better, and you must remember that the right person is out there. Please try to remember that as it will help you through your sadness, and thankfully it is the truth. Most importantly, remember that not all guys are players. In fact, most of them are not. The same goes for women as well, because I have finally found Mrs. Right and by the way, the two of us are very happy and set to marry in the fall. You will find your true love and that person will treat you right.
Hopefully this will help you. While it is simple, it is the truth. You will be fine and surely get over this setback and find someone who is truly great and deserving of you.
2007-02-26 03:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should look out for your self, remember that you are worth more than a million words, If you was with this person and this person was with another female, I hate to tell you this he never took you for a serious relationship. I guy that is with you and another person is not worth a bit. All ways keep in mind you could find something better than him and to make him suffer and beg for you, Girl get dress nice ignore him like it didn't hurt your feelings at all. Don't NEVER let him see you down even though every time you see him and you feel like crying be strong. You will see that he will come to you and begging you to give him a chance. That's what you want for him to do, after he did you wrong.
2007-02-26 03:39:18 · answer #3 · answered by chicarika_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man will always have a bond to the woman who bears his children even if he has affairs or falls in love with someone else. Men, as a rule, separate feelings of lust from love. They know we want love and they let us feel they do love us in order to have sex. This is a biological fact. We women trade sex in order to have love. He may not feel he has betrayed either one of you. I know of men who have had affairs of long standing with women. They think of these as "separate" from each other, like separate lives. In fact they are not. You know the answer to this problem, you just don't want to face it because it will be too painful for you. The minute you find the truth in yourself which says that you are too good for this type of relationship you will move on. Some people feel that anyone who wants them is good enough for them. This is not true. We all have some value which may be overlooked by low self esteem. Find the place in your life when you first felt that you were not good enough, heal that part of your life and you will move on. There is a saying about a man who marries the woman he was cheating with. It leaves a job opening for someone else.
2007-02-26 03:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by ZenWoman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think of what a scum he is! Go out with your friends and have a good time...4get about him...it will definitely take time, but it will be a fun adventure finding your next guy!! There is someone way better for you out there that will treat you with the respect you deserve! Just give it some time...dont rush it! Enjoy being single for a while....Live your life to the fullest with no regrets. All you can do is learn from things you wen through. Whatever dont kill you makes you stronger...trust me i know from personal experience myself! I was also cheated on and very naive about it..even tried to get back with him after the fact!...very very dumb i was! But now....I'm completely over hiim...seen him the store one day (he was coming out, I was goin in--thank god) And I just laughed....totally not attracted at all anymore! The pain will fade away with time, trust me! You WILL find someone better! For now...go have fun, do not sulk in your sorrows, only makes matters worse! When you fall pick yourself up and try again! Lifes an adventure...where will it take you next? Thats the fun part...you never know whats in store for you!! Good luck
2007-02-26 03:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep your chin up and stay strong. Go out with some of your girlfriends...or go hang out with someone from your family...family always knows what to do to cheer me up. As for your relationship...use it as a learning experience...don't let it ruin you - You are worth more and deserve better - if you stay at home and don't get out there you will never know how much someone can love you! You just gotta find Mr. Right but he isn't just going to pop up at your door! So get out there and have some fun! Good Luck and I hope you feel better!!!! When I found out about a long time boyfriend cheating on me my friends and I through a singles party!!
2007-02-26 03:36:10 · answer #6 · answered by ~J*me~ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your whole relationship was a lie if he was cheating on you. Love yourself and move on. Join a new club, like yoga or a fitness center, go to the library, take yourself out for coffee with a good book, reach out to other people and make new friends. Figure out why your attracting this kind of man so you can avoid them in the future.
2007-02-26 03:37:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 12:51:30 · answer #8 · answered by shakita 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i am in the same situation, last weekend i over heard my bf of 7 years talking to his brother about how he had sex with another girl while he was working out of town. i was and still am very depressed and i know what you mean about feeling like your relationship was a lie. i told some of my girlfriends that i was feeling down and they arranged a "girls night out" it helped a little bit. you'll be feeling down for quite a while, the only sure way to overcome this will simply be the passing of time. good luck i know how s h i t t y it feels, but just know something better is out there for you!
2007-02-26 03:37:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need time to think things over. And you should do this will trying to relax. Do something for yourself, pamper yourself, go to your favorited place, with a book or your iPod. Get together with your friends and watch some funny movies order some pizza get some icecream! It's gonna be hard. But in time things will get better, and you will begin to forget. I wish you all the luck.
2007-02-26 03:41:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋