I am very sad recently while celebrating Chinese New Year,finally l realized l have a scary mom,a selfish and stubborn lady who never care of her daughter's feeling.....l am sad.....we can have a happy family still even though my dad left us when l was 5,but because of my mom's character,l lost family.Now l understand why my dad left,l have been suffering for so many years,l really dont know how to accept her as my mom.....how？
2007-02-26 03:27:49 · 12 answers · asked by flyflyfly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
As human beings we have to accept the failures and flaws in others that are in our life. Your mother may have become this way because of your father leaving, not the cause of him leaving. Either way, unless she seeks treatment and acknowledges what this is doing to her daughter, she will not change. If you can't get her to see that this is very disturbing for you, could you go live with your father? Or another family member? If not, accept your mother for who she is and when you are old enough to be out on your own, do so. Good luck and God Bless.
2007-02-26 03:54:07 · answer #1 · answered by tersey562 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, every mother does not necessarily love their kids. My mother kicked my brother and I out of our house when I was 16 and he was 14 going on 15.(my dad was a lost cause) She didn't want to bother with kids, she wanted to go out partying. Any ways now I am 33 and I just try to realize she made mistakes, but no matter how hard I try to get over it I jusr can't see how any mother could do this. My only advice depending on your age, if you are still living at home you may have to grin and bear it but if you live on your own just distance yourself from her. It will be her loss when she gets old and needs somebody to look after her. In my case I try to see her about once a week so my daughter can see her, but because of the past I can't trust my own mother to watch my daughter. Just know that you don't have to have somebody in your life just because they are your family.
2007-02-26 03:35:27 · answer #2 · answered by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact is she's your Mom. Your dad left ... that's too bad and your Mom may still be hurting over it. It's never easy when you love someone and they leave you with a kid. Have some compassion. Your judging her when you should be supporting her. Sit down with her and tell her how you feel. Talk to a school couselor or your pastor at church. Good Luck.
2007-02-26 03:33:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mother was a lousy mother. I have learned to accept that as I grew older she just has alot of problems that she refuses to deal with and I know it had nothing to do with me. I also dont have a father. But, that doesnt mean squat. I am a great mother to my son and love every moment with him. I just figure my parents taught me how not to be a parent and try to be grateful for that. Just love the life that you have made for you and realize that your parents are people, and some people are lousy parents.
2007-02-26 03:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by pepper_0713 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats sad. Are you really sure that ur mom is truly like that? sometimes when kids are mad at there parents they have different feelings towards them then when they do when there not mad at them. if it really is the case tell her how u feel. Maybe get her into some counseling or therapy where she can learn how to vent her feelings and talk about things. maybe something is going on in ur moms life that u don't know about thats causing her bad behavior. tell her u would really like to talk about whats been going on. Im not sure what else to say because i don't know what it feels like to have a mother like that. talk to ur mom. communication is everything.
2007-02-26 03:40:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My wifes mum is a lousy mum she stuck by her peodohile father and doesn't trult care about any of her children many years of counselling later she deals with it get help love you can pick your friends but not your family good luck and have a happy life:)
2007-02-26 04:35:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are young and confused right now, but your moma loves you.
She may be busy but she always cares.
You need to open up to your moma and tell her your problems.
It isnt easy being a single parent these days, think positive and
help your moma out and listen to her cause she has been your age.
Every Moma loves their kids, its human nature .
Accept her as a moma cause you will be grown up before you know it and you will be a moma.
My moma is in heaven and i sure miss her, enjoy
every moment u can with your moma
2007-02-26 03:37:25 · answer #7 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I love my mother. I don't agree on some of the things she does, but I let her know those things. We talk about it.
2007-02-26 03:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know ur feelings u do what dont talk to her if she ask why just tell her whats the problem then she will realice
2007-02-26 03:38:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Shes your mom and always will be, that doesn't mean you have to accept her behaviour.......
2007-02-26 03:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋