I am 18 and my boyfriend is 19. We have been friends for almost 2 years and have been together for 8 months. We want to and plan on getting married and having a family. I plan on moving in with him and his family this summer after I graduate high school. My parents expect a lot out of me and expect me to live with them for a long time. I get along better with my boyfriends family, then I do my own. I feel more love from his family, then my own. So, my question is what is the best way to tell my parents I plan on moving out without a huge freak out from them, because if you knew my mom, she would defiantly throw a fit...even though she married my father a week after she turned 18.
2007-02-26 03:11:19 · 13 answers · asked by andys_mcr_chick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Just tell them that you don't want to disrespect them, but you want to be with your boyfriend, and become a family with him. You are old enough to make that decision and you want to keep a good relationship with them and that is why you are telling them. If they throw a fit then simply say that you will be back when they calm down, and leave.
2007-02-26 03:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that you say your mom will have a major freak out, when hearing the news says your family does care and love you. They will want the best or you always. Moving in with him and his parents is not a good idea. Wait until you and your bf are financially prepared to move out together on your own. I think you are running away from responsibility. Your parents expect alot from you and you should expect alot from yourself. Being responsible is tough, if you can't make it at home you wont make it somewhere else. Again if you move out, make sure you are prepared to make it on your own. In time Problems will arise at his house too .
2007-02-26 03:21:04 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would try telling them that you two have discussed getting married, but want to wait until you are a little older, and you want to move in together to make sure it will work. Living together you will have to put up with all the stuff that married couples trudge through. This is a good test. That way you will know when you get married that you can live with this man happily. Hope this helps and the best of luck.
2007-02-26 03:16:12 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i am 28 and currently living with my boyfriend. I never told my parents. In retrospect, I should have told them. Parents are very protective of their children. If they didn't love you they wouldn't care if you move out or not. You have to think about your reasons of wanting to move out, if it is only to escape your family whom you deemed unloving, maybe you should reconsider. You are still very young with a lot of potential and opportunities, and getting married and settling down with somebody can be very demanding on anyone. Maybe your mom is trying to stop you from making the same mistake that she made. Anyway, if you really want to move out, try and break it to them in stages so that they don't get too much of a shock and think of some good arguments to support your decision, maybe find a good example who your parents approve of. Bottom line is..don't sell yourself short and don't commit before you kno what's out there!!
2007-02-26 03:24:50 · answer #4 · answered by princessjaja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol its funny i ran into this question, because i found out recently that my sister ran away with her bf and is currently liveing with him...to be honest my mother crys every night for her because shes very young (16) and her boyfriend is 18, i remember she was yelling that she gets more love from them then us, but we all love her the house hold isnt the same with out her....and i miss her we wanted nothing but the best and for her to choose him over us is turly painful....i say u should really think about it hard and lead dont follow....just cuz ur mom did dosent mean u should. THEY CARE 4 U! keep them into consideration.
2007-02-26 04:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by catkiss17 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am going through a very similiar circumstance. I believe that it really does not make a difference how your parents feel about you moving out with your boyfriend, because neither one of them are going to pay you or your boyfriend's bills-you and your boyfriend are going to have that you worry about. You need not stress yourself over your parents not accepting your relationship with your boyfriend either, because you are an adult now and you can make your own decisions. It seems to me you ought to just be honest with them, and whatever your folks say-don't worry about it too much. You only live once so you ought to live life happy. Good luck.
2007-02-26 03:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by marquella_la_nice 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit down with your parents, be strong, & tell them of your plans. There's no need to throw in the parts about how you get along better with his parents, etc. That would be hurtful to your parents & you don't need to make matters worse. In closing, tell your parents that you hope they will give you their blessings. Then, the ball is in their court & see what happens from there. Once you move out, make sure you stay in touch with your parents. No matter how you may feel about them, they're still your parents.
2007-02-26 03:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I had 2 face the same thing but i was 17 and about 2 have a baby what i did was told my mama that i was stay over there 4 a few nights and i keep on get tin thing out my mama house then she asked my did i move out and i said yes {it was my baby daddy}
2007-02-26 03:19:37 · answer #8 · answered by crystal h 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait til you turn 18 and you will not have to say a thing, just move your stuff out slowly, they will get the message.
If they ask what u doing, tell em u found a place to move to get on your own.
just do it, they will eventually find out its at your boyfriends, but u are an adult and do as u please.
2007-02-26 03:17:53 · answer #9 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just do it, and expect little support from them.
Are you sure your bf's family has invited you? Liking someone as a visitor is a different matter than as a roommate.
When you are pregnant, or need money, or are otherwise screwed, you are going to hear "I told you so" from your parents.
If you STILL want to, just tell them, and then do it. No fighting, just do it.
2007-02-26 03:15:21 · answer #10 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋