ok my son just came in from school and asked to go in for friend round the corner.ive said yes and im sitting here wondering if he,s ok!! he,s only started going out on his own and knows the boundarys and i have to say sticking to them .so why is it i feel sick every time he,s out on his own?be back by 5 god i wish it was 5 ....does this feeling go away?.
2007-02-26 03:09:01 · 14 answers · asked by smiler 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
to- Reality Check Please you say my spelling is horrible?what have i spelt wrong?
2007-02-26 03:23:01 · update #1
In UK spelt is how a word is as you say spelled.Just wondered why you felt the need to tell me about my mistakes in the way you did?
2007-02-26 06:26:49 · update #2
That's part of being a parent and knowing that this world can be a big bad place. Something that might help ease your mind is to ask him to call you when he gets there and to call you when he's on his way home. Helps ease your mind a little bit.
2007-02-26 03:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by 7S282 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old your son is? My son is 8 and i am dreading the time he wants to go out on his own. (Be 21 if i had my way!!) Your not the only one hon, it's one of those things we've got to get used to at some point. It is different for the men,partners husbands etc as they are at work, we have to let them go then wait on our own until they come in again for tea, counting down the minutes and so on. I think once he has gone out on his own a few times you shall start to relax a bit more. Hopefully. Can't wait to feel like you (but so many other women do too, again, your not the only one hon.) All the best. xx
2007-02-26 11:15:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It never goes away entirely but it fades a bit. My son is now 12 and I made him take a map test before he was allowed to head out on his own. He also had to be able to recite all his phone numbers. I still get a sinking feeling when he's 5 minutes late, but now I assume he's just being absent-minded, not that something bad has happened. Can you get him a cell phone? They make special ones for kids that have a button just to call home. Firefly I think...
2007-02-26 11:14:59 · answer #3 · answered by the beet 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not the only parent that becomes afraid when their child starts to venture out on his or her own. This is a normal maternal reaction. If you are truly concerned, you can always walk down and see that he's alright or call the other child's parent and check to see that things are going well.
I would recommend that while you have some quiet time, you work on your spelling. It is horrible!
2007-02-26 11:13:24 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No its called being a mum, we worry about our kids all the time for different reasons at different ages of their life's, it never goes away, but it gets easy er.Just as long as you teach them to do their best to keep safe. but they have got to grow up and need their freedom to do so, I know its hard we hear such horror stories all the time , but the facts show that they are on the whole quite safe. Enjoy the time on your own do something for yourself.You are just being a good caring parent Good luck
2007-02-26 11:17:39 · answer #5 · answered by Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Youre definately not alone on this one, it took me ages to get used to short periods of time mine was out, i asked her to check back in every half hour at first as she was playing with friends in a park really close but out of sight, scary but we made it through, she was 6 at the time, is now 14 and i still worry if she is late, she is also very good at telling me where she will be so we gained something good out of my anxiousness.
Long hard years follow but it gets easier.... or you get more used to it....
who'd be a parent?
2007-02-26 11:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yo never said how old he was I have 4 boys and the first time is always going to be the hardest it happends to every per-ant you think you have worriess now wait till they get older you have to let go in the long run you will learn to relax and trust no harm will come to him but the but you will always worrie over your child it dose not matter how old there are don't worrie about your spelling
2007-02-26 13:22:27 · answer #7 · answered by mamsy0 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes some time to get use to but you will. You are just a parent and protecting him from the cruel world we live in. You should of told him to call you when he gets there and before he leaves so you know where he is.
2007-02-26 11:12:24 · answer #8 · answered by sexypanty07 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes mothers are always like this but do not keep telling him to much or he will stray away from the boundries i did this
2007-02-26 11:12:45 · answer #9 · answered by colin050659 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MOM,
whoever you are, Please please please keep doing what you are doing. This is your child. No one else's. By you getting this way says that you are overprotective about your young. Nowadays, no one is safe. You wish you could tie your kid up and never let him go anyway. You do let him go for a little bit which says you are giving him some trust. My mother was this way too. Believe me, he will thank you for it later. Email me if you want to talk
2007-02-26 15:04:52 · answer #10 · answered by Vlad24 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋