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ok i jus found out that i lost the baby! and its lyk driving me crazy, but how would i tell the father i mean we had been taklkin bout having a baby together since i was 13. its like i never really wanted it to happen soo soon. nut the thing is i sort of cheated with one of my close guy friends and i'm really sure who was the father anyway? should i tell them or not and how?

2007-02-26 03:04:20 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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First of all, the fact that you were talking about having a baby since you were 13 baffles the mind... WOW.

Second of all, you need to be up front with all parties involved. Telling the truth will get that conscience cleared.. sure it will. BUT more IMPORANTLY... these guys deserve to know. This wasn't just your baby. Takes two to make a baby... and it's not only on you to decide who gets to know the truth. You are obligated to tell them... and in this case omitting the truth is the same exact thing as lying. You gotta deal with your problems. When you screw up, you just gotta be an adult and take the rap (although you don't sound very adult-like). Learn from this mistake and please please... grow up.

2007-02-26 03:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jessica La La Leigh 3 · 1 0

You should probably tell your bf if you really love him. He does deserve to know everything that goes on with you if you plan to have a future with the guy. But if you feel you have to hide things and you cant be completely open then hes probably not the guy for you. Someone you have plan a future with should really be special, where you can tell him anything at all and be completely comfortable...never nervous of what he will do. If it was meant to be, then you two shall get through everything just fine! You sound kind of young. So you will probably have a lot of bf's still ...break hearts adn get yours broken a time or two....you have a big life ahead of you...so live with no regrets, and live your life the way you want to the fullest. If you may fall along the way, pick yourself up and try again! Thats what lifes about! Good luck
p.s. If you had to cheat then obviously there is something missing from your relationship, so you're not happy! Move on to someone that keeps you happy, and all you need is him! You should not feel the need to cheat when you find him!

2007-02-26 11:15:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Some things are better not said or not knowing nothing good would come from you telling about the father situation, why borrow trouble that's what I've always heard, but on the other hand... now that you got out of this mess check your self.... do you really love this guy and if your saying yes' then you have to control your self, having children is the most important thing of your life and you defiantly want to choose the father. so I know things happen.god knows we all have wild nights or things we wish we wouldn't have done, but hey that's something you don't have to worry about it now; eh? so make better choices you so worth it, good luck!

2007-02-26 11:50:26 · answer #3 · answered by That girl 2 · 0 0

Think about how badly you feel right now. Imagine that a lot worse. That's how your going to feel in a week, a month or even a year from now. It's going to build up inside of you and eat at you. You need to tell them. Not just because of the previously mentioned reason, but also because they deserve to know the truth. Good luck.

2007-02-26 11:11:49 · answer #4 · answered by Socially Awkward Penguin 6 · 1 0

wow your so messed up

First of how can you kinda cheat. you did or you didn't

If you did then duh you need to tell your man partner whatever he is.

You need not feel guilty , but own up to it and move forward.

If this was just a one time thing, get over it and make sure it never happens again. But if you let it happen again you are a poor excuse as a human being.

first time could be a mistake secound time is a habbit...

either way if your not ready to have kids and allow yourself to get pregnant, i have strong concerns for the well being of your child....think abou it...Lets

2007-02-26 11:13:32 · answer #5 · answered by letsget_dangerous 4 · 0 0

Don't tell anything.If asked just say it didn't take and let it be at that.If you don't want a baby right now,tell them the doctor said if you have sex you need to use a condom for med reasons.

2007-02-26 11:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by Goodfellar 2 · 0 0

Just let sleeping dogs lie. What do you hope to gain by telling these guys?

You can't change what you've done but you need to deal with your guilty conscience, don't put it onto the other people.

2007-02-26 11:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

no, DO NOT tell him , let it go, and DONT let it happen again, you will lose your guy and or he will cheat on you to get you back... you lost the baby maybe because someone was looking out for you.... miscarriages happen because its gods way of preparing you for another healthy child... so, dont be upset over it...

2007-02-26 11:13:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

Keep your mouth shut. Things happen for a reason and try to find the lesson in this situation.

2007-02-26 11:10:17 · answer #9 · answered by Li 4 · 1 1

in my opinion i say keep quiet! but if u want expert advice then may i suggest u email your question to:

sex-etc@hotmail.co.uk

it's run by a group of agony aunts and when i've had problems in the past to do with sex or relationships i've emailed them and they've replied to every email with really good answers!

2007-02-26 11:10:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

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