how do i let my parents know i hate living where i moved when i know it would hurt them since theyre kinda sick of me making fun of this place, this is where they grew up, and pretty much had no choice but to move here? how do i let them know im homesick...i miss my friends who live across the country now? how do i let them know im so unhappy with everything now?how do i let my mom know shes putting way too much stress on me right now, and i have a lot of stress that i cant even begin to tell her since we have such a bad relationship?
help!
2007-02-26 02:57:46 · 6 answers · asked by teenagegraffiti 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Might hurt your parents more knowing that your in distress but are not communicating with them. Making fun of the place they grew up is not helping the situation, just gets them on the defensive. Should go to them,no matter what relationship you have had with your mother in the past, tell them you want to talk rationally about your feelings. It's hard starting over in a new place and even more difficult if you feel you don't have anyone to turn to with your fears. Before I was 16....I had lived in every state but Alaska and Maine....lol....One thing I did to help ease some of the hatred I had for new places was getting out and exploring . Could try that but either way....should express your feelings to your parents but be willing to do it in a mature fashion. And dont expect them to fix it for you. Maybe theres a compromise in there somewhere.
2007-02-26 03:11:07 · answer #1 · answered by trixydaysy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you just have to do what you just have to do. You say your parents had no choice but to move there, so complaining about it isn't going to do any good. What you need to do is find new friends and activities there, while still staying as close as you can with your old buddies back home using the internet. It's very, very hard at first to feel at home when everything is new to you, but sooner or later you'll feel more comfortable there and have twice as many friends, those from your old home and those from your new one.
Oh, and tell your parents, ... but also try to accept the change, ... if you don't you'll just make everything twice as hard on your whole family. They probably feeol bad enough right now that they've taken you from what you think of as your own home and friends. It won't help to make them feel worse.
2007-02-26 11:05:35 · answer #2 · answered by Owlchemy_ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're right in knowing that you need to talk about this with your parents. preface what you say with "i'm not saying this to hurt you, but..."
your mom & dad love you & want to know what's going with you, so don't give up. i've moved around a lot so i understand missing a place or friends. your parents are probably not going to move back to where you came from just because you miss your old friends, but they should know you're going to need some time to adjust. ask your mom for a little slack right now as this move has changed your whole life. remind them that you are going through a lot with getting used to a new school, trying to find new friends etc. be patient with them & ask them to be patient with you.
2007-02-26 11:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by Debra T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them! It's really not going to be as big a deal as you're making it out to be. This just in: PARENTS CARE what you have to say. Even if you don't have the best relationship, that's what they are there for. To help you! And believe it or not, they already know you're homesick. They know that it's hard for kids to move to new places... just talk to them okay? I promise you they'll listen.
2007-02-26 11:02:58 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica La La Leigh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey all i can say is trust ur instincts in what to do to let them know u r angry.u r the only person that can decide how to let them know withount herting them..... and u have to realize that being upsent won't change something u have to begin to cope with ur new life focus on the fact that u r there now and how to live best at ur place..... try to make new friends'go out alot .... try new hobbies ..... and try to decorate ur new house and create a calm and friendly place to stay at least untill u convince them to move back if u were that lucky..... got kuck
2007-02-26 11:21:23 · answer #5 · answered by enasshalaan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be open and honest let them know and go from there!
2007-02-26 11:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋