If love is everything 1st Corinthians 13 states it is,
"Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."
And I tell my wife, or my children "I love you", and I know I haven't kept those verses, do I really love them?
What's the term I should use for "I really want to love you, but I fail miserably everyday"?
2007-02-26 02:47:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I don't know if you realize it but you have summed up the essence of our existence here: to learn divine love. It is divine love that is referred to in that section of the Christian bible you quoted, not the ordinary love. To many seekers of God, that is the best part of the Christian bible.
Divine love is the goal, but any type of love is a starting point, be it love for family, pet, job or food. Do not be discouraged if, quoting you, "you fail miserably everyday". Even realizing that you are not yet perfect is a good thing. You have to forgive yourself, and try again, and again, and again... After all, divine love 'perseveres'.
2007-02-26 03:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by RAFIU 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The term is just what you've been saying all along. "I love you."
When it comes right down to it, Corinthians just got a little carried away and missed the point. Here is how it should read-
"Love is patient, though at times, that patience is tested. Love is kind, which is why you don't strangle those you love when they make you want to. Although it is not meant to envy, it is only human nature to feel a LITTLE jealous some times. It does not boast, because everyone can already see it. It is not proud, because you have to be vulnerable to receive love and no one who is proud can show vulnerability. Love itself is not rude, but we all have our snippish days. It is not self-seeking, because you are seeking another who will love you in return. It is harder to become angry with those you love, but they do know all the right nerves to hit to get you EXTREMELY hot under the collar. It forgives the wrongs that are done, and though those wrongs are remembered, they are not to be brought up at a later date. Everyone sins, but love feels guilty afterward. Some times, it sets ones conscience free to tell the truth, but if you want to stay out of the dog house, it's best to omit certain parts of the truth some times. It protects the best that it can, but every now and again, the antangonizer is going to be much bigger than you. It trusts, but trust can be broken and needs to be regained. It hopes, but some days, you're to depressed with today to even worry about tomorrow. It perseveres, but some times, it is less painful for both parties to let go."
Who gives a damn about whether or not you do those things! Love is about giving it your all and always trying. Even if you fail miserably, at least the people you love will see the effort, and in their eyes, you succeeded just because you cared enough to try.
2007-02-26 11:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by Shel K 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The love that is coined in the Bible 1Cor. 13:4-7 is perfect or agape love. It is God's love. While no one is perfect, and no one can be God, with His help, a person who seeks Him can achieve this to some degree. The fact that you are noticing that you fail at perfect love is a good thing. Keep trying to put them first, because that's REAL love. The rewards come from knowing that you are pleasing God by truly trying to do that.
2007-02-26 10:59:27 · answer #3 · answered by Cheryl Durham, Ph.D. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love as well as you can (while deepening)...the deeper you love the closer you will find you are to the text.
Love is freeing - by its very nature it frees you and the ones you love. Do not be content with the love you have and just superficially notice it...but delve deep within yourself and observe/investigate your love.
As love is freeing...when you spot conditions and bonds you have placed on others - let those go. You will automatically love more deeply.
Love involves a letting go and accepting everything that is.
I would not give your current ability to love a different term - just know it is not yet complete.
~ Eric Putkonen
2007-02-26 11:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes,I do and you probably do too,but love is not always pure or perfect.show it by doing and being loving.do things with them,not just say the words.love is more than a statement,it is actively showing and proving it with laughter and song in your heart..it is not gifts ,but being with that person and doing things together and physical contact and playing around and adventure and spontaneity and joy and having fun.sure you get angrey some times ,but it does not last ,and you care even more after words
2007-02-26 11:08:53 · answer #5 · answered by woodsonhannon53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I can't say that I forget all wrongs or that I always trust. So I would have to say that I loved them as much as I have ever loved anything or anyone in my whole life!! And that is what you probably feel for your family too.
2007-02-26 10:53:32 · answer #6 · answered by Dovey 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can love someone without being "in-love" with them. So, you more than likely, i would hope you do anyway, do really love these people. You cannot make everyone happy all the time. Nobody can.
2007-02-26 10:53:07 · answer #7 · answered by chvegrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love that which pleases you or meets your needs in some way. So long as you and your family please each other and meet each other's needs you love each other. When kids become adolescents and look elsewhere to meet their needs they often stop loving their parents. When the wife gets fat and nasty love is extinguished. There is no unconditional love in this world.
2007-02-26 10:59:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Repentance
2007-02-26 10:51:06 · answer #9 · answered by Answergirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The phrase should be "I'm trying to love you to the best of my ability." or "I'm working on loving you more and more."
It is possible to love someone as it is displayed in the bible. Remember that you are human so mistakes will be made. That will, in turn, test their love for you.
2007-02-26 10:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by se-ke 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋