My girlfriend just admitted she got a ride home from a bar the other night by the owner because she was too buzzed. She went to the bar with another girlfriend. The owner of the bar is my friend (or so I thought). My girlfriend said the owner of the bar told her she was hot enough to be a stripper and if she wanted to be a strip dancer he could help her get a job doing that. He then said he needed to see her naked to help decide if she could do that line of work. She told me that he then commented on the nice Valentine's roses I gave her and that's when I figured out the only way he coud've seen them is if he was INSIDE her house! That was strike two because she did this about a month ago with two strangers she met at a bar (who had been buying her drinks). I expressed my concern the first time and am concerned she dismissed my feelings. I am overseas fighting for our country and really don't need this. I like her alot. To top it all off, her child doesn't like me. Should I dump her?
2007-02-26 02:47:33 · 11 answers · asked by In Iraq 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should dump her. It's one time-I can see-but the second time-no. She is being blalantly disrespectful to you, her child and herself about letting strange men come into her house that she does not know after you have told her you don't like that-then, she told you about it after the fact; what is the point of doing that? She told you that to ease her own guilt because she knows that if she is so willing to let men into her home after brining them home from the bar, then it may have led to MORE than what she is actaully telling you. You have enough stress to deal with as far as dealing with your service to this country in Raiq-you do not deserve to be told things of this nature from her when it is completely preventable with good common sense on HER part. she is folling arond behind your back, and thinking that you will take her back because she thinks you are desperate for a relationship because you are in Iraq and you have no noe else to reach out to. serve her her walking papers and focus on being safe and hopefully coming home soon. God bless you for defending our country, sir.
2007-02-26 03:13:08 · answer #1 · answered by marquella_la_nice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need woman problems on top of everything else. Don't wait for "strike three" before kicking her to the curb....Do it now! Maybe you should send her a "Dear Jane" letter. When you get home, which I pray will be soon for you & our other men & women over there, have no contact with her. She is not the type of woman you'd want to take home to meet your parents, is she? She's not ready for commitment & has no idea what it is. When the time is right, find yourself a woman who respects herself enough to have good morals & values. At this point, it doesn't matter if her child likes you or not, does it?
2007-02-26 03:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to me she wants to be single and go out with her friends and do the single thing. If she is having men take her home after the bar closes and inviting men into her home she is asking for trouble! I would say dump her and find someone that is loyal to you and you won't be having this problem with trust.
2007-02-26 02:54:59 · answer #3 · answered by Bonduesa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, dump her. Obviously she didn't care since she did it again. She has no respect. I know what you mean. I'm in the military myself and if you're constantly thinking about what she's doing back home you will lose your focus. Losing focus can cause you to lose your life and or others.
What you can do is just let her go. When your tour is over and you're willing to give her another shot then that's you. Good luck!!!
2007-02-26 02:57:33 · answer #4 · answered by Chi-Townz Finezt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes.
There are scores of women who would really love to be with a person who is not only understanding and caring, but is also risking his life for our country. It's much better to be alone than to be with a woman who loses her moral when she has a couple of drinks. Plus, she wasn't even completely sincere, which means she WILL do it again.
Dump her, the sooner the better, and thank GOD you realized what kind of person she is.
2007-02-26 02:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by dianabarff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-26 00:09:21 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need 2 leave her she is no good 4 u. U need better
2007-02-26 02:55:50 · answer #7 · answered by crystal h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they never said that the truth was pretty. I say dump her as well.
2007-02-26 02:53:31 · answer #8 · answered by bladeshaven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, dump her. You have enough to worry about.
2007-02-26 02:51:48 · answer #9 · answered by Blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love her.. you'll find a way to make it work.
but as the saying goes..
fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.
2007-02-26 02:52:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋