i don't even know my sister anymore help!?

Question

okay yesterday i went to my cousins house right i found out that my sister has been sexually active and on drugs sense she was 10 yrs old and was stealing cigarrettes from my dad she is a bad influence and yet all the attention is always on me i get in trouble alot now and she is the one they should care about more because i am only a few months away from 18 yr old and she is only 16 I DON'T know what to do its hard to talk to her or even look at her she doesn't know that know see her differently now but how do i cope with the new her

she has always hated me she always thinks she is right she does well in school but at home she has a problem with authority me and my sis used to be close do you think that because her first boyfriend was when she was really young and showed everyone his penis under the table at lunch that she turned out this way plus my parents cooping us up in the house for long smokin maryjane could this situation be the outcome of it!

i'm her sister

my sis and friends recently started hating my cousin and my cousin was very close to my sis but it seems that she and her friend sneak out all the time now and go bothering my cousin maegan is very mature for a 15 yr old she has made mistakes but she is learning and is pregnant she has no time to tell me lies about my sister but i dont see why they keep tryin to break into maegans house every night!

Answer 1

Get her some help! Talk to someone outside the family, that is HONEST, like a good friend of yours, and ask them how you can help her. If she is still in school, talk to some of her teachers, or a school counsellor about your sister's behaviour, and why. If she is not, talk to a psychologist, or even the police to help out. But you could phone the police, any way, even if she is in school. It is bad that is problem was left for so long, the sooner you solve the problem, the better off you will be. Help her, before it is too late. You don't want to learn the hard way, because too many people have all ready!

Answer 2

First of all, don't 'cope' with the new her. This shouldn't be the new her. Second, you need to talk to her and tell her what you're telling us.
You may be just the person she needs to hear it from. You are older, and even without you realizing it, she probably looks up to you a lot. You are an influence on her life in more ways than you could possibly know or realize.

The drugs and smoking are not good for her. Actually, it could mean her very life. You should make it your immediate plan to talk to her about the choices she is making and explain to her how much you love her and don't want to see her getting into trouble. Your words may not mean much to her at first, but they will always be in her memory.

Hope this helped and wish the best comes out of this! ♥

Answer 3

This situation is never easy but the one thing to remember is that she is always going to be your sister and this is her cry for help and attention. Be there for her. Dont feed her habit or give her reason to continue but keep her occupided or help her find a new way to life.. Plus your parents have the right to know what you feel might be endangering your sister. If you really care aout her well being , do the right thing ,help her find help and always I mean always be there to to lend an ear or a sholder to cry on. Let her know you care. My sister who is no longer with me has saved my life from some of the same things your sister is dealing with even after she was gone. Please dont let it be to late before she really knows how you feel

Answer 4

If you are at your cousin's house, how did you find out all of this about your sister? Did your cousin fill your ear with gossip or did you observe this behavior yourself? Think about the source.

It's time for you to focus on you. If you are going to be 18 soon, you should be getting ready to graduate and think about further education.

Think long and hard about where this information came from and then decide how you want to handle it...if the news if from a trust-worthy source.

Answer 5

Souonds like your sister desparately needs some intervention, she is so young. Please don't accept the "new her". Her activity is extremely dangerous to herself (and others). She is too young to know or handle the consequences of her behavior. Please get someone involved, parent, school. She may hate you for it now, but will LOVE you for it later. What a wonderful thing that she has you for a sister to be concerned. Please don't wait another day to get her the help she needs and deserves.

I Sincerely hope everything works out for you and your sister. I know it must be hard for you to see her change. You don't sound like a girl that gets into trouble, you sound like a genuinely caring person.

Answer 6

I don't think you should have to "Cope" with the new her. She is obviously out of control and has been for sometime. She needs someone to care enough about her to tell her the truth about her behavior. Its unacceptable and dangerous. If your parents won't, then you have to. She may not like what you say, but you are her brother. Deep down she cares what you think.

Answer 7

let your sister make her own mistakes like u did at that age.
all u can do is talk positive to her instead of put her down.
be an inspiration to her and take her on activities like rollerskating
and to movies to get her mind off of partying and peer pressures.

Answer 8

I know it is painful to find such stuff about your sister but your sister needs help not alienation....You should maybe inform older relative to talk to her or encourage her to seek help . She will have you to thank in future for turning her life round.
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Answer 9

sit ur butt down and talk to her . let her know what u was told and ur worried about her. its hard but if u cant then let ur parents know.