My fiancee's Maid of Honor called her yesterday to say that the Maid of Honor's other best friend just happened to pick the same day to get married that we are. Of course my fiancee is hurt, especially since her friend committed to our date 6 months ago. Any advice for me to give her?
2007-02-26 02:43:04 · 16 answers · asked by Spudnic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The other problem is that her two other bride's maids are her only two sisters. She can't, and won't, choose between them. She's been contemplating eloping since this happened (see my other question "Marry or Elope?")
2007-02-26 02:50:07 · update #1
Your fiancee just needs to be understanding....if her MOH chooses to be in another wedding besides yours, then there is a reason for that. She needs to realize that her MOH is not happy about the situation and it isn't an easy choice to make, but it has to be made...so whatever wedding she chooses to be in, you guys should support her and understand her decision...it sucks! But thats how life works sometimes =0)
2007-02-26 02:47:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Have 2 maids of honor. I have 2 sisters, and like I could not choose between them either. So I am having 2. There is no law that says you can only have one, it's your wedding. Do what makes you happy!
And as for the friend, how terrible of her to ditch your future wife! She must not be that great of a friend anyway!
2007-02-26 12:15:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't need a Maid of Honor, just a Female witness to sign the marriage license. The Mom of the Bride can do that.
2007-02-26 12:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by ee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, your fiancee's friend is wrong for making other plans, she knew she had already told your fiancee she would be her maid of honor, why make other plans to be in someone elses wedding? I think your fiancee should have some else take her place, I don't recommend that she keeps her as a maid of honor and have her go from one wedding to another... she needs to be there for her on that special day...
2007-02-26 11:35:52 · answer #4 · answered by yomyr2000 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well the MOH is not a true friend because she should have told the other person that she was already IN a wedding. I would be pissed!
Now, the sisters. You could just have bridesmaids, or make them both maid of honor!
2007-02-26 13:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It wasn't very nice of that girl to do that to your fiance, especially since she was already committed to your wedding. I don't think that girl is as good as a friend that she thinks she is. I say let her go to the other wedding. Is there anyone on either side of your families that could be maid of honor? If so, maybe it would be better for her to stick with a family member. I know I would be really hurt, I don't think I would be able to talk to the girl anymore.
2007-02-26 10:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by Dee G 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be very mad at the other friend! That's just wrong. And I wouldn't expect your fiance to choose between her 2 sisters. I would just make both of them Maids of Honor. I'm having 5 bridesmaids and that includes my 2 nieces who are both serving as my maids of honor.
2007-02-26 11:13:42 · answer #7 · answered by Holly 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hi again, I answered your other question too. :) Tell fiance that happens sometimes, I had two maids of honor quit on me, one got pregnant and the other just stopped talking to me and disappeared. Anyway, I wouldn't think much of the maid of honor that's quiting on your fiance and would suggest it's time to stop being friends with that girl. She obviously doesn't care about your future wifey. And, if wifey doesn't want to promote one of her sisters to maid of honor, then how about another friend, maybe your best man's girlfriend? Or just elope and plan the big party I suggested to your other question. :)
2007-02-26 10:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If possible, can one sister be a MOH and another a Matron of Honor (this is of course is if one is married and the other is not). If one is under the age of 14, she could be a Jr. Bridesmaid....
If men can have two best men, I think women should be able to have Maids of Honor!
Good luck!
2007-02-26 10:56:44 · answer #9 · answered by Saucy 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Well if her maid knew about this 6 months ago and after this long someone else decides they are gonna ruin your soon to be brides day i would tell her t ask her bridesmaid that if she chooses not to be n her wedding then that is the end of their friendship and i would tell your fiance to find someone else like a cousin or something.
2007-02-26 10:48:20 · answer #10 · answered by Denny O 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i think you fiance should choose a different person to be the maid of honor. the one she chose has already agreed to your wedding and thats wrong for her to consider someone elses. she shold have told the other people sorry im already commmited for that date. she isnt a friend to put you guys in that situation. i had a maid of honor from hell and so wish i could have done it over again. good luck to you and congrats!!
2007-02-26 10:52:30 · answer #11 · answered by Awesome Rockin Mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋