I am a 23 year old man and my grandfather is 87. I have been helping him since his illness in november, and for 4 months ive been walking to his house everyday and bringing him groceries, newspaper, medicine when he needs it, and spending about an hour with him everyday. i am not doing this for money but to help my grandfather. However, I do not have a job, and I could really use some money. I would like it if i could ask him for some money, either $100 weekly, or a lump sum of $5,000. He owns many stocks, and has about $500,000. Am I out of line, or should i be comfortable asking him for the money? If I can ask him, how should I go about doing it ? What should I say ? Thanks.
2007-02-26 02:31:54 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Since you are doing this out of the good of your heart, I personally think he should be offering you the money since he knows you are out of a job right now. But, since he is not offering, I think it's a good idea for you to ask.
I would however ask for the $100 weekly instead of a lump sum. Then it would look like you seriously could use the money and you're not just using him for his money or anything.
And since he owns stocks and has money in the bank to spare, I don't think he'll get upset over it or anything. He may be hesitant, cause fact it - old people can be selfish with their money!
Maybe you should ask like this: "Grandpa (what you call him) I've been meaning to bring it to your attention, but I'm in need of some money in continuing to assist you. As you know, I'm not working right now and I could really use the money. After all, I am using my time I could be working to assist you and run erans for you. I'm only asking for $100 weekly, so please answer with regard to all that I've said. Thank you, and I will continue to assist you no matter how you answer."
Hope this helped and wish ya well! ♥
2007-02-26 02:47:40 · answer #1 · answered by ♥LadyC♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask your father first, because your father probably helps grandpa keep up with finances.
A nursing home would cost him 4000 or more a month and they dont do half the stuff you are doing for your grandpa.
U should at least get 8 an hour for lookin after him or 200 a week.
If they had to hire someone it would be even more.
Ask the parents (your dad or ma i presume) first.
Its simple, just ask before they hire someone that your grandpa will not like.
Help him shave too and fix him breakfast and do yard work u may make more.
2007-02-26 02:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i dont think your out of line.. and i think you desevre a reward for all the work your doing, running up and down and so on... some people especially from past generations are quite tight with cash and dont think to share it..
I think the best thing to do is be honest with him and say poitely that you need some cash as your a bit broke so that you can keep on helping him and coming to see him.. just explain that you are very reluctant to ask but due to cash flow isses that you could do with some money and thatyou are really sorry you have to ask..
good luck and just be honest and remember the worst he acn say is no and i dont think hes that mean..
x
2007-02-26 02:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by neeneeuno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I have had to ask for help financially from family members in the past. I always pay them back though. I would approach him and ask if there is any way you could borrow ex amount and give him a timeline of when you will be able to start paying it back. Find a job and make payments to him. That's the right way to do it, I think.
2007-02-26 02:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask him say Grandfather i love you and all but i really do need to ask you for some finacial assistance i am in a bind so could you help me out?
2007-02-26 02:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by Denny O 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask your self: Who needs the money extra precise now? Is it you or her? If the respond is her, in simple terms permit it pass and wait till she brings it returned. If she would not then evaluate it a donation and permit her be responsive to in case you opt for the money in simple terms be coming near and say something like "I in no way meant to invite you with regard to the money returned yet we are in undesirable choose of it precise now" the 2nd option may be the final motel for me as they seem very unsettled precise now
2016-10-02 00:34:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this world is too realistic man. money is everything, u see, your son is not here to help, what could u expect from your third generation hah!
2007-02-26 02:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a job to make money. he may leave you his beneficiary so don't get greedy yet.
2007-02-26 02:38:22 · answer #8 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 23?....Your not working?.....Where are you living?.....Who is feeding you?......Do you see a patern here?
2007-02-26 07:50:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋