I have been on and off with this guy for over a year...sometimes he will flip out for no reason, but to make a long story short he is now telling me he is going to kill himself b/c i don't love him like i used too...what does that mean, and what do i do?
2007-02-26 02:30:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he could be bi polar or just has mental issues. He may need some serious help. But do not fall for the suicide call. It is a way of getting you to stay with him. If he flips out as you say, for no reason he could become violent enough to commit a murder/suicide. Please seperate yourself from him. Let him know that your sorry he feels so sad to want to kill himself but you love him enough to be a good friend and tell him to seek counsil. Get some distance between you and him if you can.
He needs help. And if he did commit suicide it would not be your fault. He may even try to tell you that if he does, it is your fault. Do not believe this. Suicide would be his choice of not accepting life the way it is and he may want you to feel the guilt to make him feel better about doing it. If he does, you know he was not in a good state of mind and that is not your fault. We can not live our lives unhappy because someone else demands us to love them in some way that we do not feel or else they do not want to live. It is there choice for there life.
However, you do need to try to talk him into seeking professional help. He sounds like a possible timebomb waiting for its moment or he is just trying hard to keep you when you do not want to stay.
Move away from this guy hun, he is going to drag you down with him if he does not get help, and help could take a long time for him.
You need to move on and find happiness for yourself and someone you can share that happiness with . And please do not forget to pray for this guy. He sounds like he needs alot of prayer.
2007-02-26 03:05:09 · answer #1 · answered by shy_tender_lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you must know he is emotionally unstable. You are lucky you are still around to talk about it. Seriously... He may eventually become dangerous. If threatning to harm himself does not work he may harm you. Please get away from this guy. He needs help big time. If he has family tell them what he is thinking. He needs an intervention. If he has no family call the suicide hotline, get friends involved. Most important for you to stay close to family, never be alone or with him alone. I am not trying to scare you, but this is not a joking matter. Take him seriously, he is unpredictable. Mabe your family has some ideas of how to handle this. Just protect yourself.
2007-02-26 02:40:37 · answer #2 · answered by sweetpea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when a guy says that it means that u aren't giving him what he wants so easy solution give him more and more attention even if it takes up a little more of your time.. just try to make him feel like he's the world to u no matter what DON'T say anything that would lower him comparison to u.... And if a guy is saying that he going to kill himself cause he don't think that u like him then take it from me go and tell him that saying that is very immature
2007-02-26 02:40:11 · answer #3 · answered by oreo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A great relationship is one where both people love each other for who they are and how they make each other feel. If one has to resort to extorting love from you by threatening to kill himself then you need to let him go. If he kills himself it is because he wanted to kill himself and was looking for an excuse. Don't blame yourself, he is obviously very weak mentally and not long term relationship material.
2007-02-26 02:37:07 · answer #4 · answered by ciza29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to get a life. he sounds bipolar and seems to be taking it ou ton you.
if you are not madly in love with this guy you need to break it off once and for all.
if you do really love him you need to talk to him about anger management or whatever but he needs to shape up or get some help.
dont put yourself through the drama if it isnt worth it.
good luck!
2007-02-26 02:36:00 · answer #5 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i dont think you should get involved with him,although he is making these threats, no one knows whether he is serious or not, he could be that mad that he would literally commit suicide or he could just be saying this just to make you stay with him , so personally either way you should keep away from him ,if he's able to make them threats about himself, he is capable of threatening you . you mentioned you dont love him like you used to , i think you should avoid telling him this,it would make things worser, so just try keep away from him, i think he is obsessed
2007-02-26 02:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont believe him... they always say this to make you feel bad and to not leave them... just tell him that you love him and you always will but you cant be with him like the way he wants to be with you. he needs to understand that enough is enough and tell him he can do better by finding someone else who will love them the way he wants to be loved... you dont need to be in that kind of relationship!
2007-02-26 02:33:58 · answer #7 · answered by Saritah Bonita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's using this as a weapon against you. In my opinion, walk away from the relationship....it's very unhealthy.
He will most likely continue with the manipulation, if you let him get away with it.
2007-02-26 02:38:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may think it is your problem but he has issues he is just trying to make you love him by threatening you... which isn't right. it is only gonna get worse i suggest that you go to the police and tell them what his plans are cause he may try to harm you as well.
2007-02-26 02:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm i always believe when anyone says stupid things like that maybe they deserve to die.... but mostlikely they are just saying that to make you pamper and baby them ... next time he says that foolishness tell him to grow up and get over himself... btw you dont want to be with a man that is that weak
2007-02-26 02:40:02 · answer #10 · answered by live in the magic of life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋