who is truly and sincerely wants to get to know me.
Guess what? I'm scared. Yep. Scared. Its funny, I don't know its game of what but the guy that I'm talking to now for about 2 weeks haven't asked for a booty call yet. Since I'm use to being lied to, I expect that everyone is like that too. Well I called him Saturday morning around 9:30. All sorts of thoughts were going on in my head. I was thinking he probably had some "company" and he cut his cell phone off. When dialed his number, his phone rung. Then I was thinking well he probably have his ringer off. So I was like I'll leave a message. On the 3rd ring I heard hello and good morning to you. I paused and said hey good morning to you too. I was going to leave you a message and he started laughing. Not only did I have my foot in my mouth I also had my ankle too. So to "save face" so to speak and I din't want to be wrong, I was thinking, well he probably just got home or the girl left earlier in the AM. It really shouldn't matter but I guess I'm trying to hard to protect myself. At any rate, I'm still somewhat in shock that I could be 100% wrong about him.
My question. Do men in general put in a lot time, work, and effort with a woman to get her to trust him just to have sex with her? Its a lot of women out there who'll give it up quick. So if a man is only after sex, how early will he make his move?
2007-02-26 02:09:49 · 8 answers · asked by gloried 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Every man is different, so your just have to trust your instincts. Good luck!
2007-02-26 02:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, i like this question because its a contradiction to what women think men are. Ok here goes. He might actually like you and just wants to take things slow to not mess things up. If he had a bad relationship in the past he may have learned from mistakes and does not want to do the same with you. He could actually be a nice guy and not someone who is going to just use and hurt you. So dont ruin this one. I hear girls all the time talk about how bad past relationships have been and to be honest alot of times its just because they are young and dumb. With time everyone learns from thier mistakes and become better people in the end. Im in the same situation right now. I just met this beautiful woman who is, to describe in my own terms, on the same wave length as me. We both know we like each other but we also want to take things slow. I have not made one bad move yet and its not because i dont want to but im putting my top head in from of the other if you know what i mean. If a guy really likes you he will show it. Sometimes you have to get to know the persons heart and mind before you dive into thier soul. ;)
2007-02-26 10:18:59 · answer #2 · answered by lethalx 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't rush into a judgement at this point. Give him some time. If he is really a great guy, you will find out soon enough. In the meantime there are clues. Ask him about himself. Find out about his background, what is important to him, how his was raised, what are his future plans. Use this time wisely, and before he makes a move, you will have a good idea of how you want to respond to it.
2007-03-06 06:00:53 · answer #3 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I usually leave it up to the girl to decide when she wants to. I'm not forceful and can wait. But then again I'm not looking for a quick lay. But it always turns out that the girls I end up with are looking for a quick lay. So I get screwed in the end. You might have found a respectful guy. Just don't give it up and if he waits around for you then you'll know.
2007-02-26 10:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by whatever 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Right away!
He won't wait around for you if he doesn't like you for anything but sex, most if not all will try the first chance they get.
Wake up and smell the coffee lady, this man is not interested in you for sex alone!
He may only want a friend, but maybe he really likes you for you!
2007-03-06 08:03:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel!! I was single for so long until I found my honey, I didn't know how to react when he was sweet and funny and genuine. It's sad that we have become so jaded and expect men to treat us like crap. Just enjoy it, be on your toes a bit, but savor every minute of it because it is a rare thing. Good luck!
PS-My boyfriend and I just celebrated our 1 year anniversary yesterday; living together 6 months.
2007-03-05 23:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he will move in quickly i would think ---- there are guys out there that do want to get to know you and are genuinely interested in who you are rather than are you good in bed? ---- so why not just see how the relationship develops ---- if he hints or asks for sex just keep saying no --- that will sort him out --- if he stays around he is after you not your body ----- best wishes
2007-02-26 10:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh wow, if the chemistry is overwhelmin, he will make his move
immediately.
But if he is lookin for a wife or partner, he may hesitate to make the move and build up the passion inside first.
2007-02-26 10:15:08 · answer #8 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋