I have been dating this guy for a bit now and he wants to take me home for a weekend to his parents house. I know that they loved his ex-girlfriend, I want to know things to do.. or not do for that matter, to impress them and make them forget her and fall in love with me.
2007-02-26 02:09:36 · 28 answers · asked by Rebecca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, the first thing is actually talk. Don't sit there with your mouth closed all night and expect people to like you for no reason. So many people do this, afraid of screwing something up when they speak, but it's a huge mistake. Second, make it clear that you have an excellent, non-physical relationship with their son. For example, don't hug or kiss him a lot, but do tease him about the way he is on certain things - that's a topic his parents will relate to. Like if your BF is a picky eater, tease him about that; you KNOW his mom had to deal with that! Third, ask them questions directly. Don't be afraid to talk to them and look them in the eye, it shows maturity. Ask them, "So John tells me you're in environmental law. What is that like?" And so forth. Enjoy!! Follow these steps and his parents will adore you...works every time :-)
2007-02-26 02:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by Beauty Bunny 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry about the exgirlfriend. You need to be yourself. It you put on aires of being somebody you aren't,are you going to continue being sombody you aren't for the rest of your life, just so they will love you? It isn't thier love that is all that important. It is the love between you and the person you are with. they may need some time to get over the other girlfriend if they were close to her. Give them that time and just be yourself. It will all take time, thats all. I was very close to one of my sons girlfriends one time. When they broke up it really bothered me. Eventually he found the right girl and they are now married. She is probably the best thing that has ever happened to him. He went through a lot of frogs and finally found the princess. Who knows, they may see you as the princess in time. Just relax and be yourself honey. Thats the best advise I can give to you. We should never have to be someone we aren't to gain someone elses friendship.God bless you. RELAX!
2007-02-26 10:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by Godlover 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the most important this is to be yourself. if your boyfriend loves you and wants you to meet them, it's bc he loves you as you truly are.
also- be helpful while you are there. offer to help his mother in the kitchen, clearing dishes, washing them, etc.
if you are staying overnight in their house, it's also a good idea NOT to sleep in the same room with him. I know it's old fashioned, but unless you live together, it will show immense respect for his parents if you sleep separately. Other than those tips, just act natural, be interested in them, and ask alot of questions about how your boyfriend was as a child. and take notice of how he treats his mother- that will be a good indicator of how he treats women in his life in general. good luck!
2007-02-26 10:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may not be able to make them forget the other girl, but try to help around the house, and laugh at all their jokes, tell them about what you plan to do in the future. Parents always like to hear of your future plans.
2007-02-26 10:13:55 · answer #4 · answered by Cherry 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Be respectful. Be sincere. Love their son, but don't be all kissy and huggy on him. Forget about TRYING to make them forget the ex and fall in love with you...that will only complicate things. Be yourself and have fun.
2007-02-26 10:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your question itself is a huge clue to your immaturity .... you can not make anyone love you .... If you act yourself be polite happy act intelligent ... show interest in what his folks and family do do not dwell on just me,,me,, also find out what the sleeping arrangements are and how his folks feel about you sleeping w/ their son in the same bed under their roof ...if his mom is not big on this then do not sleep w/ him use another bedroom or a hotel ...
2007-02-26 10:20:51 · answer #6 · answered by ccseg2006 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Great question. It sounds like you're intelligent and compassionate so my advice is to be genuine and smile a lot.
Be your best but don't try to be someone you're not. If you guys get hitched, it will be impossible to keep up.
My wife dated another guy for four years and was engaged to him before we met. Her parents took a while to like me, but we've been married now for 14 years. It CAN be done.
Good luck!
2007-02-26 10:14:04 · answer #7 · answered by Yowza! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't focus so much on impressing them. If you do that they will never get to see the real you. Don't pretend to be someone your not just to get them to like you. Be open and honest with them. Keep the converstaion going. Let them know you care about their son a lot. Ask questions about them, make it seem like you want to know about them personally.
2007-02-26 10:13:18 · answer #8 · answered by ...Melissa... 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you are doing too much worrying. If they loved her then that is that. I am sure they will eventually get to love you too but there is only one thing for you to do and that is be yourself cause you want them to love you for yourself right? You will be alright so no more worrying!
2007-02-26 10:13:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just be YOU, no extra BS, if he loves you, they will. If they don't seem to like you right off the bat, just give it time. Worry more about your relationship with your boyfriend, if you guy's are happy, the parents should be too.
2007-02-26 10:16:02 · answer #10 · answered by twostories 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋