make me feel better please?

Question

i was with y boyf for 4 months,he was serious and said he wanted marrige and even intoduced me to his family,he said they were open minded and relaxed,we were honest and i knew everything about him like he had a criminal record and he knew everything about me like my sister being a ex heroine addict,my sisters overcome this and now clean and married is making a success for herself,hes now turned around and said his family would never except my sister cus of her past,he finished it with me and said there was no future,now i was upset but this is a 29 year old man who lives at home with his parents and doesnt want to move out,i cant believe his family and him could be judgemental when there sons a ex convict,im so upset and felt like telling him what i felt but i didnt also i found texes on his fone and thiink cuz i caught him out this is his excuse,in going to be 27 and i feel like a loser,im a pretty girl but i attract scummy men,why?,i feel like its my destiny to be alone.im low.

Answer 1

there are plenty more fish in the sea

Answer 2

27? You ARE a loser. But you don't have to remain that way. You attract scummy men be cause that is the social class you keep yourself in with your illiteracy.
Do you have any idea that your use of English makes you appear ignorant?
Your whole post is one run-on sentence. You found texes on his fone? What are texes?
To change your life, get down to the community college, take classes, especially in English. Stay away from men for a while and find something to do with yourself that will improve your sense of worth.
THEN when you know you are no longer a loser, allow yourself to find yourself a good man.


Sorry, this probably didn't make you feel better, which is what you were wanting. However, if you take my advice, you will feel better and live better in the long run. I have nothing against a quick fix, but you have to look at the big picture, as well.
Quick fix? Maybe spend some time with your sister and get some inspiration from her. And watch some funny movies.

Answer 3

Lift your head up and repeat after me:
"I am beautiful and deserve so much more!"

You are! And you do!
No woman should have to be content with what she doesn't want. That man is immature and not worth your time or energy. A person's past is just that - the freakin' past! No one should be judged on what happened long ago. Especially if that person has changed. You sister is just that as well - your sister - not you. Your sister has nothing to do with you as a person. And besides that, she has gotten help and is over that now! She's a better person and doing good for herself!

Now back to this scum bag. You dont' deserve to be with someone who will continue to put his parent's thougts before his own. And he's gonna keep putting them before you. Like you said, he's grown and living with them, and doesn't plan on moving out any time soon!

You deserve so much more!

Hope this helped and wish ya the best!♥

Answer 4

I think you have been given a break. Take it. I am almost 41 years old and a lot of crap has happened to me. Initially I would fret about the negatives but everytime something good happened to counterbalance the bad I would pick myself up. Now I live by the fact that "things happen for a reason". You will realise your reason soon enough and thank your lucky stars you let go of this relationship. Give it up please. I also have a very difficult inlaw and believe you me it is bloody hard work and a lot of stress and anxiety. You have a chance to change your life and stop attracting scummy men. Grab that chance sweetheart and live you life to the fullest. Good luck.

Answer 5

You got played by a jerk. An ex con who's probably headed back in if he keeps messing with people like that. Pick yourself up, add it to your life experiences, and move on. He didn't deserve you anyway.
If you feel all you attract is scummy men, you're hanging out in the wrong places. Ditch the bars, and night clubs. I'm not necessarily saying go to Church, but find better places to find men. Join a social club of some sort. Take up a hobby you like, and look for men who like the same things.
You shouldn't feel your destiny is bleak. at 27, you still have tons of life in you. Be patient, my parents were 31, and 45 when they married. You've still got plenty of time. Just use it wisely.

Answer 6

I know it sucks right now and you are entitled to be sad. But it will pass and you will find someone new, and I mean come on 29 and living at home ? Not a good sign in my opinion. Give it some time and you can move on and find someone better. It is not your destiny to be alone, unless YOU want it to be. Hang in there and spend time with friends and family, talk to your sister as she has achieved a huge amount by turning her life around, so you know she has an idea of how to get back on track. Come on give us a smile? There.

Answer 7

right for a start, this man is a total loser - not because he has a criminal past, but because he's tied to his mum's apron strings and probably does everything she says. At the age of 29 he's old enough to know what he wants and he's being cowardly using his mum to get out of a relationship. I don't think the relationship with him would ever have gone anywhere, and believe me, you're better off finding out now than 2 years down the line when its less easy to break it off

secondly, just because you attract scummy men, it doesn't mean you have to go out with them. pick and choose who you want to be with. if you're attracting the wrong sort of men, you're probably giving out signals of low confidence, or picking them up in scummy bars. decide that from today you want better for yourself, and that you'd rather be alone than with some tosser who treats you badly or has no prospects. Take it from me - its far better to be alone than stuck in a relationship with a loser. who knows what's passing you by while you're sat in a dingy pub with some worthless idiot?

spend time with your friends and family, build up some confidence, get used to being alone and do not ever again just go for the first bloke who takes an interest in you. If they're worth their salt, they'll wine and dine you and wait for you to make your mind up

Answer 8

Dont worry .... I feel the same way sometimes .... well i say that I dont attract scummy men ...I seem to attract women ( with issues )...... your 27 big deal..... you will be fine.... dont associate with people that are scum.... more than half of this country are scum..... hold your head high and dont let anyone walk over you.....Hey it's probably both of our destinys to be alone.... we can have a chat while we are sitting on that shelf watching and waiting for someone to choose us....

Dont worry about it..... Just go shopping buy something really nice for your self.... Hx

Answer 9

omg the EXACT same thing happened to me. wut is up with these imature guys???? except i was dealing with a 19 year old and he didnt wanna move out cuz it was free to live with his parents and he didnt want to get a job. he broke up with me after 16 weeks of pregnancy over some stupid little fight and it hurt me very much but dont you think maybe you have alot more freedom now? you are strong, trust me, im pregnant but still hanging in there and im 18! I go to college now and working on being a massage therapist. You can do better. I know its hard. God Bless You! <3

Answer 10

Sweetie,please don't distress yourself. This man is only using your sister as an excuse. You clearly are of no more use to him and he hasn't the bottle to be honest..Think of it as a narrow escape and find someone who is worthy of you..Afterall,do you really want someone who,at 29,still lets mummy look after him? If you'd stayed together,you would end up being a replacement mum,instead of partner,wife etc..Wipe your tears and be thankful you're rid of him...xxx

Answer 11

u obviously have such a better up bringing and intelligence than this guy and his hypocrital family. look u can expect ppl for who they are not what mistakes they may have made so dont worry i am sure u can get another guy jus take some time out for u go out with friends and make some new friends then when u r not looking u will be with a lovely guy who likes being around u no matter what chin up pretty girl have some fun